*SIGH*

[melengro]

OKAY, I AM FUCKING SICK UNTO DEATH OF FEELING LIKE SOME KIND OF BIG WEIRDO AS OPPOSED TO AN EMINENT VIRTUOSO BECAUSE I'M THE ONLY PERSON WHO IS DISTINCTLY UNCOMFORTABLE WITH THESE THINGS [WHO IS NOT A PSYCHO MISOGYNIST]. IT'S NOT THE FACT THAT PEOPLE DISAGREE WITH ME, IT'S MY FUCKING PARANOIA ABOUT IT. A PERSONALITY TRAIT THAT I REALLY REALLY HATE

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[the_sun_is_up]

?___?

[melengro]

Long story short: character in Doctor Who did something I didn't like, everybody else whose opinion I respect wasn't as put-off about it as I was, I said so, my learned paranoia about conflict kicked in, I started indiscriminately apologising all over the place.

[the_sun_is_up]

Ah I see. Since I'm curious now, what was the thing that the character did?

[melengro]

Impulsive, unprotected attempted dub-con on the night before her wedding. Not with her fiance. It was interesting from a storytelling perspective and made sense given the characters involved but I had a strong 'Oh HELL naw!' reaction, combined with a 'strap yourself in for Wankstorm 2010, Nathan, we're in this for the long stretch'. And since I'm a shell-shocked veteran of Wankstorm '07 in the same fandom already, I panicked a little.

It'll be fun to point and laugh rage at the more extreme 'NOT BEING AN ASEXUAL DOLL MAKES AMY EVIL AND BAD!' camp, though.

[bewarethespork]

Take a deep breath and calm down. Nobody's saying that you're wrong for disagreeing with people. I know paranoia can be hard to deal with, trust me - but by apologising when you haven't done anything wrong, you make it a lot hard for people to talk to you because we're all busy wondering why you're apologising and why we're supposed to be offended.

Deep breaths, okay? It makes me sad to see you so upset. :(

[melengro]

I've been taking deep breaths and reading lesbian manga and listening to Leonard Cohen. I feel much better now! Even good enough to try to tackle one of the infuriating Taeko-centric chapters of The Makioka Sisters in my reread!

[bewarethespork]

Good! I'm glad you feel better. :)