Better than expected
It was bound to happen sometime...
On the suggestion of boneshard, the beau and I attended a techno swap meet at the National Electronics Museum just outside of Baltimore on Saturday. After introducing the two gents, we headed in to the museum and perused gauges and wires and all sorts of thirty- to fifth-year-old technology. I didn't see anything which ( Read more... )
On the suggestion of boneshard, the beau and I attended a techno swap meet at the National Electronics Museum just outside of Baltimore on Saturday. After introducing the two gents, we headed in to the museum and perused gauges and wires and all sorts of thirty- to fifth-year-old technology. I didn't see anything which ( Read more... )
I don't consider you a social failure. Perhaps it is that you are also not tarnished by an outside label in my head, but I don't think that's the only reason for my opinion. I know and generally socialize with four people who have divorced from their first spouse, and all of them are better people for making that change.
Even without comparisons, I think what I see/know about you reflects growth and joy. You didn't suddenly turn into an introverted toad hiding under your rock or a social skunk spraying everyone around you with bitterness. You have positive things to say about others and interesting things to share about yourself and your experiences. Your online voice sounds energetic, introspective, celebratory, and conspiring, by turns, and always self-aware.
Learning more about yourself and being strong for yourself by requiring a divorce is not a failing, but a triumph. Certainly, you can feel regret that your initial hopes and dreams for that marriage are now set on memory's shelf, and that weird guilt of not being perfect. But don't let it undermine your new life.
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It's weird, but I still carry a little sting of guilt for being so late to your wedding that it was over when we pulled up. Darned tractor-trailers.
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