Suck It!
... 'Cause seriously, my family is stressing me out and they live 700 miles away!
Back in April when Daniel and I first changed our date to August 16th, we asked that my mom talk to my family and feel everyone out for that date before anything was confirmed. Since they had a get-together that weekend, my mom was suppose to run it by them then and STRESS that while their attendance would make me giddy beyond words, it was a large commitment for a small exchange of vows in the park and I would understand if they didn't attend. Later that week, spoke with mom and she said that she spoke to them and they all agreed it was a a big trip for a 30 ceremony & dinner. She said that they probably were unlikely to attend, but they all mentioned sending us money towards our honeymoon since they'd be saving themselves a trip. Whatever, no biggie. My mom and siblings would be there though, so all was fine...
Yesterday, got a call from my Mom-Mom & Aunt Kee-Kee, freaking out, asking me what was this talk about a wedding. I told them that mom spoke to them already and outlined the situation. "No she didn't!" my Mom-Mom starts yelling, "Of course I want to be there!" And then my Aunt gets on the phone "Your mom is crazy - She never mentioned anything about it." Now, I LOVE my mother ; However, she's a complete scatter-brain and I am more inclined to believe my other family members. They took the liberty of calling my Uncle Bubba and asking him if he knew. He said he didn't and he was pissed b/c he had already scheduled his vacation at work and didn't know if he could change them now. After 30 more minutes of this I hang up with them and am shocked. I am happy to know my family wants to come and, if I am being honest, I was near tears.
My mom calls that night, I tell her what happened earlier. She says "I did tell them! They must have changed their minds, they said they weren't going... " yaddayaddayadda. I calm her down and tell her it's OK and that I'm sure it just slipped her mind.... Well, that pissed her off. She thinks I'm siding with them now. And then she procceds to tell me the equivalent of "they're stinky doo-doo heads!" by saying "Well, I don't know why they'd even want to come since they were scoffing when I first told them and your Aunt rolled her eyes and said 'yeah, sure they're getting married'"
Even later that night, I still feel bad about saying that to my mom, when lo-and-behold! my other Mom-Mom calls and asks me the same thing "what's this about a wedding?!" She said her daughter, my Aunt Bonnie, called her asking about it 'cause she caught wind of the situation and didn't know anything about it either. Now, my Mom-Mom Lyn is a HUGE gossip. She knows the dirt on everyone in our family, so if she doesn't know, noone knows.
So, unrelated, today I call my Uncle Bubba to wish him a happy birthday. He right away asks about the wedding. I tell him all I know and I told him that Kee-Kee and Mom-Mom have already said that everyone was coming and he's like "Well, yeah... or something... see, i don't know all the details... your Aunt Kee-Kee is in Germany for a few weeks, so nothing was really decided. I just found out Monday and... you know, we're gonna' see... or you know, discussing you and Daniel coming up after the fact and we'll throw something for you here... or, so... umm... yeah." Well, now I'm REALLY confused. Are they coming or aren't they? My aunt is in Germany, so I don't know. I know my Uncle already scheduled his vacation, I don't want him to change it on account of me, but now I'm confused and just a little hurt. I just wish someone would give me a straight answer. Right now I have no one, NO ONE, to help me with any of this. I have to dress shop on my own. I have to plan the ceremony on my own. Still have to figure out what our reception plans are exactly -- And right now I feel really stressed out....
I know there are worst things going on. I know I sound selfish. I know I am probably making a bigger deal out of things than are necessary, but I honestly feel like going to the courthouse, getting married and sending out a big invitation to everyone that says "Suck It!"
On another note, the BBQ is still on for Saturday, the 21st. I will probably send out an Evite tomorrow, but just a heads up. Depending on who's coming, we may forgo the river expedition in favor of a traditional BBQ and swimming pool outing. We'll provide soda/water, some alcohol and the main meat for the BBQ. I'd love some people to volunteer side dishes though & BYOB if you want something specific. And you may want to bring your own towel -- Our supply is limited :)
Back in April when Daniel and I first changed our date to August 16th, we asked that my mom talk to my family and feel everyone out for that date before anything was confirmed. Since they had a get-together that weekend, my mom was suppose to run it by them then and STRESS that while their attendance would make me giddy beyond words, it was a large commitment for a small exchange of vows in the park and I would understand if they didn't attend. Later that week, spoke with mom and she said that she spoke to them and they all agreed it was a a big trip for a 30 ceremony & dinner. She said that they probably were unlikely to attend, but they all mentioned sending us money towards our honeymoon since they'd be saving themselves a trip. Whatever, no biggie. My mom and siblings would be there though, so all was fine...
Yesterday, got a call from my Mom-Mom & Aunt Kee-Kee, freaking out, asking me what was this talk about a wedding. I told them that mom spoke to them already and outlined the situation. "No she didn't!" my Mom-Mom starts yelling, "Of course I want to be there!" And then my Aunt gets on the phone "Your mom is crazy - She never mentioned anything about it." Now, I LOVE my mother ; However, she's a complete scatter-brain and I am more inclined to believe my other family members. They took the liberty of calling my Uncle Bubba and asking him if he knew. He said he didn't and he was pissed b/c he had already scheduled his vacation at work and didn't know if he could change them now. After 30 more minutes of this I hang up with them and am shocked. I am happy to know my family wants to come and, if I am being honest, I was near tears.
My mom calls that night, I tell her what happened earlier. She says "I did tell them! They must have changed their minds, they said they weren't going... " yaddayaddayadda. I calm her down and tell her it's OK and that I'm sure it just slipped her mind.... Well, that pissed her off. She thinks I'm siding with them now. And then she procceds to tell me the equivalent of "they're stinky doo-doo heads!" by saying "Well, I don't know why they'd even want to come since they were scoffing when I first told them and your Aunt rolled her eyes and said 'yeah, sure they're getting married'"
Even later that night, I still feel bad about saying that to my mom, when lo-and-behold! my other Mom-Mom calls and asks me the same thing "what's this about a wedding?!" She said her daughter, my Aunt Bonnie, called her asking about it 'cause she caught wind of the situation and didn't know anything about it either. Now, my Mom-Mom Lyn is a HUGE gossip. She knows the dirt on everyone in our family, so if she doesn't know, noone knows.
So, unrelated, today I call my Uncle Bubba to wish him a happy birthday. He right away asks about the wedding. I tell him all I know and I told him that Kee-Kee and Mom-Mom have already said that everyone was coming and he's like "Well, yeah... or something... see, i don't know all the details... your Aunt Kee-Kee is in Germany for a few weeks, so nothing was really decided. I just found out Monday and... you know, we're gonna' see... or you know, discussing you and Daniel coming up after the fact and we'll throw something for you here... or, so... umm... yeah." Well, now I'm REALLY confused. Are they coming or aren't they? My aunt is in Germany, so I don't know. I know my Uncle already scheduled his vacation, I don't want him to change it on account of me, but now I'm confused and just a little hurt. I just wish someone would give me a straight answer. Right now I have no one, NO ONE, to help me with any of this. I have to dress shop on my own. I have to plan the ceremony on my own. Still have to figure out what our reception plans are exactly -- And right now I feel really stressed out....
I know there are worst things going on. I know I sound selfish. I know I am probably making a bigger deal out of things than are necessary, but I honestly feel like going to the courthouse, getting married and sending out a big invitation to everyone that says "Suck It!"
On another note, the BBQ is still on for Saturday, the 21st. I will probably send out an Evite tomorrow, but just a heads up. Depending on who's coming, we may forgo the river expedition in favor of a traditional BBQ and swimming pool outing. We'll provide soda/water, some alcohol and the main meat for the BBQ. I'd love some people to volunteer side dishes though & BYOB if you want something specific. And you may want to bring your own towel -- Our supply is limited :)