I can't believe it!
David (my birth father) e-mailed me last month and told me that his son, John (my half brother), now knows about me. I have been waiting for this for 4 years now, so I was really excited when I found out. His wife Debra already knows about me, and has known about me for years now, but he told me that he was going to tell the rest of his family about me as well. I wrote David back right away, but didn’t get a response until today.
The first paragraph of his e-mail read, “Hopefully you can visit later this year and meet John and Debra. We will pay for your airfare. This is something for you to think about.” So that is awesome news, considering I have always wanted to meet John. This will also be my first time meeting Debra, and second time meeting David. Yes, it will be awkward, but I’m really excited. Also, he did not tell the rest of his family yet.
About 10 minutes later, he sent me another e-mail. Debra e-mailed David in December, and said that he should tell the rest of his family because I deserve to have them in my life. She also drafted up an e-mail to send to the rest of the family. In this e-mail, she said that David had a daughter and said what I was doing with my life. At the end of the letter, she went on to say that they were in the process of re-writing their will to include me. Shocking? Just a bit!!! I cried when I read his letters.
I called my mom right away to share the good news, but it didn’t seem like she was very happy. She was telling me that I shouldn’t let him off the hook so easily and how he ditched me my entire life until now. Which I understand, but damn! My parents think that I am going to ditch them for David and his family, but it’s totally not like that. And I feel like I’ve told them this a million times before, but they don’t believe me. I just want to know where I come from...and I want to meet the people that made me who I am. David and I are so similar, and I really want to learn more about him. Not to mention, I have a brother that has the same blood as me. Man, that’s exciting! It just seems like I don’t have many people to share the excitement with because nobody knows how it feels. I just wish my parents would be happy for me. But since they aren’t, my excitement has turned to sadness...because I don’t want to upset them.
It seemed like my mom was kind of short w/me when I first called her, but she called me back an hour later. I think my parents think that I want David in my life because they weren’t good enough...and that my family wasn’t good enough. My dad has even made comments to me about that before. They didn’t have a big house, they didn’t have enough money, they didn’t give me every single little thing I wanted...but shit, I didn’t want to be a spoiled brat. I got a shit ton of things! I was fortunate to be raised by 3 people (counting my dad that died) that wanted me in their lives. David and Tara didn’t want me...that’s the point of an adoption. And you think I’m stupid enough to throw everything away on someone who didn’t even want me?!?! I don’t think so!
This is so exciting, but if I go through w/it, I know that it will really hurt my parents. WTF?!? :(
The first paragraph of his e-mail read, “Hopefully you can visit later this year and meet John and Debra. We will pay for your airfare. This is something for you to think about.” So that is awesome news, considering I have always wanted to meet John. This will also be my first time meeting Debra, and second time meeting David. Yes, it will be awkward, but I’m really excited. Also, he did not tell the rest of his family yet.
About 10 minutes later, he sent me another e-mail. Debra e-mailed David in December, and said that he should tell the rest of his family because I deserve to have them in my life. She also drafted up an e-mail to send to the rest of the family. In this e-mail, she said that David had a daughter and said what I was doing with my life. At the end of the letter, she went on to say that they were in the process of re-writing their will to include me. Shocking? Just a bit!!! I cried when I read his letters.
I called my mom right away to share the good news, but it didn’t seem like she was very happy. She was telling me that I shouldn’t let him off the hook so easily and how he ditched me my entire life until now. Which I understand, but damn! My parents think that I am going to ditch them for David and his family, but it’s totally not like that. And I feel like I’ve told them this a million times before, but they don’t believe me. I just want to know where I come from...and I want to meet the people that made me who I am. David and I are so similar, and I really want to learn more about him. Not to mention, I have a brother that has the same blood as me. Man, that’s exciting! It just seems like I don’t have many people to share the excitement with because nobody knows how it feels. I just wish my parents would be happy for me. But since they aren’t, my excitement has turned to sadness...because I don’t want to upset them.
It seemed like my mom was kind of short w/me when I first called her, but she called me back an hour later. I think my parents think that I want David in my life because they weren’t good enough...and that my family wasn’t good enough. My dad has even made comments to me about that before. They didn’t have a big house, they didn’t have enough money, they didn’t give me every single little thing I wanted...but shit, I didn’t want to be a spoiled brat. I got a shit ton of things! I was fortunate to be raised by 3 people (counting my dad that died) that wanted me in their lives. David and Tara didn’t want me...that’s the point of an adoption. And you think I’m stupid enough to throw everything away on someone who didn’t even want me?!?! I don’t think so!
This is so exciting, but if I go through w/it, I know that it will really hurt my parents. WTF?!? :(