My ultimatum

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My dad and stepmom met in a bar when I was 14 and married six weeks later. Ever since, she has made our lives hell in some way or another. My dad pays every single bill that comes in, and as a result, his nearly 6-figure is not enough to keep her happy or living the way she wants, as he's supporting two households (she refuses to allow him to sell the Pensacola house, but at the same time, he keeps it to have somewhere to "send" her when they get tired of each other). Over the years, he has tried to divorce her 9 times or more now (that's the number I remember). It's not as though he can't divorce her as in she won't let him; he keeps going back to her after he threatens divorce. My dad has an addiction to this woman that I'm scared he can't ever get away from. So tonight he calls me, almost in tears, that he can't do it anymore, that she's crazy, that he called his lawyer to tell him to go through with the divorce. I've learned not to comfort him anymore because I know how it'll end up either way. However, I do stress to him that this happens often, that he needs to go through with it, etc. So later we change the subject, and he asks when I get my cap and gown for graduation. I told him I am not walking for graduation and he told me he was disappointed in me. I told him not to say crap like that when he stays with Leslee, and he said, "Yes, you're right." He tried to convince me to walk in May, and I told him I would if he went through with the divorce with her, and that was the one and only way. Surprisingly, he agreed. So it looks like I may end up walking for graduation. Or, if I know my dad, I won't be. Let's hope he does this. I told him I'd also become a republican if he did, and he seemed excited about that. God knows I won't do anything like that though.

My dad's marriage has made me believe in pre-nups and long-term relationships so much now. I think I want to date a person for years and years before I marry him. If I even do. It makes me nervous.