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I found that amusing. Posted on wtf_inc.
You cannot know how delighted I am that Jodi isn't the typical woman. No offense to you lady journalers out there. I am sure most of you are exceptions. But you all know what I mean: The passive-aggressive bullshit. The games. The taking hours to get ready to take a trip to the supermarket. Yeah. You know what I mean. The asking of dumbass questions that you can't answer without digging yourself a hole. Constantly asking, "What are you thinking?" Using PMS (or other imbalance) as an excuse for ANYTHING. Hell, I don't allow being a fucking lunatic as an excuse for anything. (Are you human or some animal ruled solely by chemical imperatives?) Things like that.
I promised myself at one point that I would never put up with that crap in a potential significant other, and that if I ever detected this bullshit in a woman it was dumping time. Too bad I didn't stick to my guns.
I have always been detached from wherever I am or whoever I was with. I never felt right or in place. I have always felt like I was ma temporary thing in that situation. An outsider, never belonging. When I was growing up, I was surrounded by people who didn't really have any empathy at all. It was always "me! me! me!". Attention whores and drama queens. No matter what you did to try to assuage the need for selfish aggrandizement, it was never enough. My grandmother, for instance, hated men, so she hated me, as well. She saw me as an extension of my father. And while she was right to hate my father, she was dead off about me. Just like I did with my own parents, I had to hide from her as well. But she is only an example of what I mean.
But thing is, the only people who have ever looked at me with anything but selfishness clouding their eyes are the people I consider my family, to this day. Not my blood family at all, for the most part. They can go hang, as far as family is concerned.
So why did I have a crisis and go off to live with a woman who was exactly like the mess above? Even worse. She was bat-shit insane, to boot. At least I woke up before too long. That came back, fairly recently, to sting me in the ass as well. She used my name to sign up for cable and cable internet, using it for nearly a year before simply stopping payments. And now I am stuck with her bill. This was after I relented and payed her 800 bucks for a month at her place. Fun. Her idea of a good time was starting some sort of screeching fit and blaming me for everything that was wrong in her life. Somehow it was my fault that I wasn't with her in college. And it was mine and Jodi's fault that we had gotten married and that I had not saved myself for her, no matter what. She actually said she hated Jodi for marrying me and having my children and that it was her right to do so, and that I didn't have the right to say a damned thing about it. The bitch actually tried to get with my friends while she was supposedly in love with me. Fucking harpy.
I guess I got off easy in that regard.
But my point is that now I actually feel like I am with someone who gets me. She and I have a lot of fun because she's not so hung up on herself that she can't enjoy life. She used to be pretty hung up, but things have changed. Thing is, even before, she was more fun to be around than most women I have known in my life. And she was, she admitted to me, pretty fucked up. She is giving, loving, kind, and a wonderful mother. Hell, she was these things even when we were having problems. This is probably why I stuck around for so long.
But she is over that crap. I don't feel so distant around her. I feel as if I have a place to be with her and I think she can feel it. Yeah. There are occasional feelings of detachment and wondering if I am where I am supposed to be, but I think this is more habit than anything. She has her moments, of course. Everyone does. You know those doubtful moments you get? But if you have an ounce of humility you'll get those.
I hear so much about how a guy can't do this or that because their wife/girlfriend won't let them. Like the guy up in that ebay ad. He should really dump that bitch and find someone who likes to do gigs in the crotch of the Mississippi, who loves music as much as he does, and won't bitch when he wants to practice. Someone who is proud of her man for grabbing life by the balls and doing what he wants to do.
I hear so much about it and I am so fucking ecstatic that I have a woman who is up to par. She loves me for who I am and for who I want to be. She loves he way I play World of Warcraft. She plays with me, for goodness' sake! She doesn't mind that I occasionally look at other women. She knows I am with her. She'd love me even if I DID join a band and I was out late doing gigs all night. She'd love me if I wanted to be a bum and travel the U.S. on the car of a train. Hell, we've talked and one of our only regrets about having children so early in our relationship is that we didn't get a chance to bum around. We might, yet, considering we'll be pretty young when our kids head off to college. (Or whatever they want to do.)
In short, she's human. She's not some beast who can't sublimate her baser instincts and realize that what she is doing is simply selfish and wrong. She can actually be happy with someone who is happy with being with her and doesn't need to be the center of attention at all times. She knows that whatever I am doing or wherever I go, she is on my mind and doesn't need constant reassuring of that fact.
Seriously, if you find that you are with someone who is so clingy and so selfish that you find yourself missing out on the fun in life because you are constantly catering to their needs to be the center of attention at all times, and if you find yourself with an attention whore who is not happy unless all your energy is spent on them, THEN GET THE FUCK OUT! Unless you like that kind of thing, then more power to you...
Seriously, get out before it's too late. Life's too short to be participating in the narcissistic demands of an asshole, male or female. There are too many good people in the world without someone to love to keep them waiting. Go through a few relationships to find those people. It's worth it.
I found that amusing. Posted on wtf_inc.
You cannot know how delighted I am that Jodi isn't the typical woman. No offense to you lady journalers out there. I am sure most of you are exceptions. But you all know what I mean: The passive-aggressive bullshit. The games. The taking hours to get ready to take a trip to the supermarket. Yeah. You know what I mean. The asking of dumbass questions that you can't answer without digging yourself a hole. Constantly asking, "What are you thinking?" Using PMS (or other imbalance) as an excuse for ANYTHING. Hell, I don't allow being a fucking lunatic as an excuse for anything. (Are you human or some animal ruled solely by chemical imperatives?) Things like that.
I promised myself at one point that I would never put up with that crap in a potential significant other, and that if I ever detected this bullshit in a woman it was dumping time. Too bad I didn't stick to my guns.
I have always been detached from wherever I am or whoever I was with. I never felt right or in place. I have always felt like I was ma temporary thing in that situation. An outsider, never belonging. When I was growing up, I was surrounded by people who didn't really have any empathy at all. It was always "me! me! me!". Attention whores and drama queens. No matter what you did to try to assuage the need for selfish aggrandizement, it was never enough. My grandmother, for instance, hated men, so she hated me, as well. She saw me as an extension of my father. And while she was right to hate my father, she was dead off about me. Just like I did with my own parents, I had to hide from her as well. But she is only an example of what I mean.
But thing is, the only people who have ever looked at me with anything but selfishness clouding their eyes are the people I consider my family, to this day. Not my blood family at all, for the most part. They can go hang, as far as family is concerned.
So why did I have a crisis and go off to live with a woman who was exactly like the mess above? Even worse. She was bat-shit insane, to boot. At least I woke up before too long. That came back, fairly recently, to sting me in the ass as well. She used my name to sign up for cable and cable internet, using it for nearly a year before simply stopping payments. And now I am stuck with her bill. This was after I relented and payed her 800 bucks for a month at her place. Fun. Her idea of a good time was starting some sort of screeching fit and blaming me for everything that was wrong in her life. Somehow it was my fault that I wasn't with her in college. And it was mine and Jodi's fault that we had gotten married and that I had not saved myself for her, no matter what. She actually said she hated Jodi for marrying me and having my children and that it was her right to do so, and that I didn't have the right to say a damned thing about it. The bitch actually tried to get with my friends while she was supposedly in love with me. Fucking harpy.
I guess I got off easy in that regard.
But my point is that now I actually feel like I am with someone who gets me. She and I have a lot of fun because she's not so hung up on herself that she can't enjoy life. She used to be pretty hung up, but things have changed. Thing is, even before, she was more fun to be around than most women I have known in my life. And she was, she admitted to me, pretty fucked up. She is giving, loving, kind, and a wonderful mother. Hell, she was these things even when we were having problems. This is probably why I stuck around for so long.
But she is over that crap. I don't feel so distant around her. I feel as if I have a place to be with her and I think she can feel it. Yeah. There are occasional feelings of detachment and wondering if I am where I am supposed to be, but I think this is more habit than anything. She has her moments, of course. Everyone does. You know those doubtful moments you get? But if you have an ounce of humility you'll get those.
I hear so much about how a guy can't do this or that because their wife/girlfriend won't let them. Like the guy up in that ebay ad. He should really dump that bitch and find someone who likes to do gigs in the crotch of the Mississippi, who loves music as much as he does, and won't bitch when he wants to practice. Someone who is proud of her man for grabbing life by the balls and doing what he wants to do.
I hear so much about it and I am so fucking ecstatic that I have a woman who is up to par. She loves me for who I am and for who I want to be. She loves he way I play World of Warcraft. She plays with me, for goodness' sake! She doesn't mind that I occasionally look at other women. She knows I am with her. She'd love me even if I DID join a band and I was out late doing gigs all night. She'd love me if I wanted to be a bum and travel the U.S. on the car of a train. Hell, we've talked and one of our only regrets about having children so early in our relationship is that we didn't get a chance to bum around. We might, yet, considering we'll be pretty young when our kids head off to college. (Or whatever they want to do.)
In short, she's human. She's not some beast who can't sublimate her baser instincts and realize that what she is doing is simply selfish and wrong. She can actually be happy with someone who is happy with being with her and doesn't need to be the center of attention at all times. She knows that whatever I am doing or wherever I go, she is on my mind and doesn't need constant reassuring of that fact.
Seriously, if you find that you are with someone who is so clingy and so selfish that you find yourself missing out on the fun in life because you are constantly catering to their needs to be the center of attention at all times, and if you find yourself with an attention whore who is not happy unless all your energy is spent on them, THEN GET THE FUCK OUT! Unless you like that kind of thing, then more power to you...
Seriously, get out before it's too late. Life's too short to be participating in the narcissistic demands of an asshole, male or female. There are too many good people in the world without someone to love to keep them waiting. Go through a few relationships to find those people. It's worth it.