I Got Off The Phone Quickly
Kate called me last night and somehow we got around to her social life. She told me that she's been bringing one or two of her friends over to Grandpa's house late at night, like, 11:00 and later, to make cookies or to get pizza, drink beer and watch movies.
It wasn't the late at night part that bothered me, or the beer, but her bringing random people over to Grandpa's house while Grandpa's asleep. I know, I know, we're in that transitional period where the house is moving from something that my mother grew up in to something that my siblings are living in. We're moving from the past to the present. She lives there, doesn't she have a right to bring friends over?
It seems like I should be able to answer that question with a simple "yes", but there's something in me that's not letting it be that easy. I feel like she's encroaching on my space, on our space, the space we grew up in. Now that we're all grown ups, we all have jobs and friends and individual lives, I know that how I relate to Grandpa's house should change too. I wonder if it bothers Grandpa. Does he feel violated? Does he even know that there are kids in his house at one in the morning? And if he does know, does he care? And he if doesn't care, why should I?
I think I'll call him today and ask.
It wasn't the late at night part that bothered me, or the beer, but her bringing random people over to Grandpa's house while Grandpa's asleep. I know, I know, we're in that transitional period where the house is moving from something that my mother grew up in to something that my siblings are living in. We're moving from the past to the present. She lives there, doesn't she have a right to bring friends over?
It seems like I should be able to answer that question with a simple "yes", but there's something in me that's not letting it be that easy. I feel like she's encroaching on my space, on our space, the space we grew up in. Now that we're all grown ups, we all have jobs and friends and individual lives, I know that how I relate to Grandpa's house should change too. I wonder if it bothers Grandpa. Does he feel violated? Does he even know that there are kids in his house at one in the morning? And if he does know, does he care? And he if doesn't care, why should I?
I think I'll call him today and ask.