lots to say
okay, i always fucking do this. i respond to all lj and emails and then i'm burnt on writing. i'm so tired right now and not sure why. i think it was sitting in the sun for two days in a row. i'm not good in sun. i used to be. i used to be a beach bunny. cute bikini ta boot! now, i get heat stroke after ten minutes in sunshine. bummer for me. i love the sun.
anyway, mike and i went to our good friends' house in bakersfield. they moved there since ventura is so fucking expensive. they have a nice house with a nice pool. cool for entertaining. i fantasized about having you all there for a pool party....
scott and shannon are really mike's friends. scott is super fun and funny. the problem is, he gets drunk and then poops out early now. shannon is your typical homemaker. she insists on certain things, including that mike should be supporting me, that i shouldn't have an epideral during childbirth, and that mike needs to pop the question soon. She is very caring, but overbearing, controlling, and frankly, quite annoying. annoying because despite me having to listen to her "advice", i feel like she's no one to talk, considering whenever we get together, she gets shitfaced and i end up taking care of the kids or just trying to ignore things. i love her because it's easier to love her than fight it. she's here to stay. scott and mike are like brothers. lifer friends. he loves shannon like a sister.
they have two ADORABLE kids. well, i should say one adorable and one monster. Kayla is in 2nd grade. she has long, toned legs due to her gymnastics. she has waist length shiny blonde hair, and a face that will one day woo many admirers, i'm sure. she is sweet too. out of 15 people sitting at the pool when we walked in today, she was the one waving and squealing, "auntie cyndi, auntie cyndi!" when her daddy found out some sad news today and started crying, she cried too. she then went and got one of her teddy bears and gave it to him for comfort. SHE'S A DOLL!
little scotty just turned 6, thus our reason for being there. mike wanted to get him these cool Robot toys from the movie. they build their own robots and stuff. he got him a spongebob bag cause shannon said he liked him.
when we got there, we noticed that he had already opened his presents. thrown all over the floor was tons of tissue (that sammy would later pee on) and toys galore. he wouldn't have even missed it! besides, there were about 3 other boxes of the same gift mike had gotten him. jeese. he's spoiled, but cute overall. he has a mature sense of humor, which comes off snotty sometimes since he's only freaking 6 years old. he came up to us today and said, "mom, i need some time alone." hehe.
it was nice to get away. real quick, here is what we did: we played poker, ate, drank beers, listened to shannon and her dad argue, listen to her brother brag, listen to her drunk dad teach me poker(which i pretty much already know), listened to her sister n law burp almost every single minute, watched mike and scott do a glamorous diving show (my personal high light of the weekend), sammy played chase with their doggie, sammy had his first hotel stay (which was successful-sweet ass bed!), and then after all of that....right when we are about to leave, scott gets a call. it's a long story, but..
basically, scott never knew his real dad. his mom kept him from him because she said he was bad or something. so, scott always wanted to at least meet him. i guess he knows his real uncle. anyway, he called to say that his dad is dying of cancer and is living with his uncle. scotty got really upset. shannon says she's only seen him cry when his grandma and grandpa died. he cried then, and i cried, and mike cried. but the good thing is that he's going to see his real dad for the first time tomorrow. however sick he may be, scott gets to meet him. he gets to have closure for something that has caused him an immense amount of pain for many years. i just hope he doesn't get his expectations too high. he was talking about spending a lot of time there. i don't want him to be disappointed.
it made me realize again how great my family is. sure, my mom is a pain in the ass a lot, but she loves me and would do anything for me. do you know that scott's mom just said, "oh well. what do you want me to do about it?" she had no sympathy for scott. shannon was pissed and hung up on her. all scott needed was a mom to just listen and tell him she cared. she did the opposite. she was too worried about her own feelings. i felt sorry for scott. i'm glad he has shannon to stick up for him. i don't understand his mother at all.
mike came home and called his mom to tell her that he was so thankful to have such a great mom. she could have done the same thing. she could have kept mike from his bum of a dad, but she didn't because that's not her place. no matter how bad he was to her, he was still mike's dad. it was selfish of scott's mom to keep him from his father, in my opinion. he at least deserved to know WHY.
i also got a great reminder about my parents. i posted judi's letter about "don't ask don't tell" on lj, but i also emailed it to my family and other friends. this was brave, considering my family is EXTREMELY conservative and EXTREMELY mormon. i got a pretty frank letter from my bro. he seemed offended about my letter. my opinions are generally offensive to most of my family. i may post it here, not sure yet. it's pretty mean at times. judi's was more "formal" and his was offensive at times. i have to appreciate his opinion if i expect him to do the same for mine. i'm no better than him if i judge him too. he reacted the way any religious conservative would, i feel.
i have a movie idea about letters....
my dad wrote back in response to both of us and i AM going to post his letter. my dad fucking ROCKS!!! he managed to tell me and my brother that he valued and loved both of us the same, no matter what we believe. he restated his own belief, so of course, it may sound real churchy to you. but i know my dad, and i know he's sincere. he is a very humble, giving man. rest assured, his letter comes from the heart, although it might sound preachy.
i lucked out with my parents. i've lucked out in a lot of things in life. why do i bitch and moan so much? pretty soon i'll bitch away my life and be a grumpy ol' lady that no one wants to be around!!!!!!!!!!! nope. i can't do that. i will use my good luck to spread luck and love around and credit my mom and dad.
read my daddy's letter below:
Cindi
We love you !!! You are Our Daughter and a valued member of our Eternal Family (You were born under the Covenant of the Gospel of Jesus Christ That your Mother & I made in his Holy Temple several
years before you were born.
We know that each of us can make any choice & or have our own opinions. We also have our free agency to select & think the way we feel is right.
Your Mother & I include all of our children (including grand & great)in our constant prayers that each of you pray & walk uprightly before the Lord.
Thank you Wes for your wise words of wisdom & supporting the Value of the Family & of the Gospel..
Heavenly Father loves each one of us & has given us our our agency.. with the Knowledge that the true & righteous will prevail.
Again We Love Each and Every one of you & will be a
"Family Forever "
Mom & Dad
anyway, mike and i went to our good friends' house in bakersfield. they moved there since ventura is so fucking expensive. they have a nice house with a nice pool. cool for entertaining. i fantasized about having you all there for a pool party....
scott and shannon are really mike's friends. scott is super fun and funny. the problem is, he gets drunk and then poops out early now. shannon is your typical homemaker. she insists on certain things, including that mike should be supporting me, that i shouldn't have an epideral during childbirth, and that mike needs to pop the question soon. She is very caring, but overbearing, controlling, and frankly, quite annoying. annoying because despite me having to listen to her "advice", i feel like she's no one to talk, considering whenever we get together, she gets shitfaced and i end up taking care of the kids or just trying to ignore things. i love her because it's easier to love her than fight it. she's here to stay. scott and mike are like brothers. lifer friends. he loves shannon like a sister.
they have two ADORABLE kids. well, i should say one adorable and one monster. Kayla is in 2nd grade. she has long, toned legs due to her gymnastics. she has waist length shiny blonde hair, and a face that will one day woo many admirers, i'm sure. she is sweet too. out of 15 people sitting at the pool when we walked in today, she was the one waving and squealing, "auntie cyndi, auntie cyndi!" when her daddy found out some sad news today and started crying, she cried too. she then went and got one of her teddy bears and gave it to him for comfort. SHE'S A DOLL!
little scotty just turned 6, thus our reason for being there. mike wanted to get him these cool Robot toys from the movie. they build their own robots and stuff. he got him a spongebob bag cause shannon said he liked him.
when we got there, we noticed that he had already opened his presents. thrown all over the floor was tons of tissue (that sammy would later pee on) and toys galore. he wouldn't have even missed it! besides, there were about 3 other boxes of the same gift mike had gotten him. jeese. he's spoiled, but cute overall. he has a mature sense of humor, which comes off snotty sometimes since he's only freaking 6 years old. he came up to us today and said, "mom, i need some time alone." hehe.
it was nice to get away. real quick, here is what we did: we played poker, ate, drank beers, listened to shannon and her dad argue, listen to her brother brag, listen to her drunk dad teach me poker(which i pretty much already know), listened to her sister n law burp almost every single minute, watched mike and scott do a glamorous diving show (my personal high light of the weekend), sammy played chase with their doggie, sammy had his first hotel stay (which was successful-sweet ass bed!), and then after all of that....right when we are about to leave, scott gets a call. it's a long story, but..
basically, scott never knew his real dad. his mom kept him from him because she said he was bad or something. so, scott always wanted to at least meet him. i guess he knows his real uncle. anyway, he called to say that his dad is dying of cancer and is living with his uncle. scotty got really upset. shannon says she's only seen him cry when his grandma and grandpa died. he cried then, and i cried, and mike cried. but the good thing is that he's going to see his real dad for the first time tomorrow. however sick he may be, scott gets to meet him. he gets to have closure for something that has caused him an immense amount of pain for many years. i just hope he doesn't get his expectations too high. he was talking about spending a lot of time there. i don't want him to be disappointed.
it made me realize again how great my family is. sure, my mom is a pain in the ass a lot, but she loves me and would do anything for me. do you know that scott's mom just said, "oh well. what do you want me to do about it?" she had no sympathy for scott. shannon was pissed and hung up on her. all scott needed was a mom to just listen and tell him she cared. she did the opposite. she was too worried about her own feelings. i felt sorry for scott. i'm glad he has shannon to stick up for him. i don't understand his mother at all.
mike came home and called his mom to tell her that he was so thankful to have such a great mom. she could have done the same thing. she could have kept mike from his bum of a dad, but she didn't because that's not her place. no matter how bad he was to her, he was still mike's dad. it was selfish of scott's mom to keep him from his father, in my opinion. he at least deserved to know WHY.
i also got a great reminder about my parents. i posted judi's letter about "don't ask don't tell" on lj, but i also emailed it to my family and other friends. this was brave, considering my family is EXTREMELY conservative and EXTREMELY mormon. i got a pretty frank letter from my bro. he seemed offended about my letter. my opinions are generally offensive to most of my family. i may post it here, not sure yet. it's pretty mean at times. judi's was more "formal" and his was offensive at times. i have to appreciate his opinion if i expect him to do the same for mine. i'm no better than him if i judge him too. he reacted the way any religious conservative would, i feel.
i have a movie idea about letters....
my dad wrote back in response to both of us and i AM going to post his letter. my dad fucking ROCKS!!! he managed to tell me and my brother that he valued and loved both of us the same, no matter what we believe. he restated his own belief, so of course, it may sound real churchy to you. but i know my dad, and i know he's sincere. he is a very humble, giving man. rest assured, his letter comes from the heart, although it might sound preachy.
i lucked out with my parents. i've lucked out in a lot of things in life. why do i bitch and moan so much? pretty soon i'll bitch away my life and be a grumpy ol' lady that no one wants to be around!!!!!!!!!!! nope. i can't do that. i will use my good luck to spread luck and love around and credit my mom and dad.
read my daddy's letter below:
Cindi
We love you !!! You are Our Daughter and a valued member of our Eternal Family (You were born under the Covenant of the Gospel of Jesus Christ That your Mother & I made in his Holy Temple several
years before you were born.
We know that each of us can make any choice & or have our own opinions. We also have our free agency to select & think the way we feel is right.
Your Mother & I include all of our children (including grand & great)in our constant prayers that each of you pray & walk uprightly before the Lord.
Thank you Wes for your wise words of wisdom & supporting the Value of the Family & of the Gospel..
Heavenly Father loves each one of us & has given us our our agency.. with the Knowledge that the true & righteous will prevail.
Again We Love Each and Every one of you & will be a
"Family Forever "
Mom & Dad