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The following is in response to my commenting on the actions of a very angry individual. He was so angry that he lashed out at me, despite the fact that I never told him that he was wrong to be hurt by the situation at hand. SO hurt, that he created a post for me in his personal journal and then asked me to comment to it. In that post he even called me a bigot, if you can believe that.
Even harder to believe though, is that he took what is a core philosophy of mine and threw it back at me. He doesn't believe that I've trained myself to operate this way! In his defense, he has no idea who I am, nor what I sort of things I've been through with various people. Still, I have, and will, drop people out of my lives if the situation warrants it. Getting angry has never gotten me anywhere, except maybe sick. In any case, here's what I answered back to him, just because I truly believe what I wrote and I would stand by it.
Of course out of context, you can make anyone sound like a horrible person. In this case, since you personally asked me via this chat to reply to your post, I will comply, and then follow my own philosophy on the subject.
Here's what I was saying right there: When a person angers/disappoints you, you basically have two choices. You can either do something to repair the relationship, or you can let it go. Getting angry does not help alleviate the situation, in fact it only hurts yourself.
You constantly gnash your teeth and get SO ANGRY at people in this community, that I wonder how someone who otherwise comes off as an intelligent individual would do so much to hinder himself and only himself.
Think about the parts in that snippet that you did not bold: 'if you don't like cotton, just write her off.' Would it be so terrible to acknowledge that you don't like her and leave it at that? Why harass chat for the rest of the day? Why make an elaborate post about it in your journal.
And yes, where people are concerned, I do make this judgment call. I have experienced enough craziness that people can dish out in my life to have learned that this is a good way to conduct oneself. So here we go: I don't have the energy to repair this relationship. I'm stepping away from it.
Anyhow, haha, I think this is the first time I've had online drama. Woo, go me!
Even harder to believe though, is that he took what is a core philosophy of mine and threw it back at me. He doesn't believe that I've trained myself to operate this way! In his defense, he has no idea who I am, nor what I sort of things I've been through with various people. Still, I have, and will, drop people out of my lives if the situation warrants it. Getting angry has never gotten me anywhere, except maybe sick. In any case, here's what I answered back to him, just because I truly believe what I wrote and I would stand by it.
Of course out of context, you can make anyone sound like a horrible person. In this case, since you personally asked me via this chat to reply to your post, I will comply, and then follow my own philosophy on the subject.
Here's what I was saying right there: When a person angers/disappoints you, you basically have two choices. You can either do something to repair the relationship, or you can let it go. Getting angry does not help alleviate the situation, in fact it only hurts yourself.
You constantly gnash your teeth and get SO ANGRY at people in this community, that I wonder how someone who otherwise comes off as an intelligent individual would do so much to hinder himself and only himself.
Think about the parts in that snippet that you did not bold: 'if you don't like cotton, just write her off.' Would it be so terrible to acknowledge that you don't like her and leave it at that? Why harass chat for the rest of the day? Why make an elaborate post about it in your journal.
And yes, where people are concerned, I do make this judgment call. I have experienced enough craziness that people can dish out in my life to have learned that this is a good way to conduct oneself. So here we go: I don't have the energy to repair this relationship. I'm stepping away from it.
Anyhow, haha, I think this is the first time I've had online drama. Woo, go me!