Jan 21, 2009 02:35
i don't like going to bed angry. i don't like unresolved conflicts. i don't like feeling as though i've done something wrong when i can't form a rational basis for what it might have been.
i know she just wanted to help me, and i do appreciate it. i just wanted to bitch about how my homework was a pain in the ass. i was just looking for an "i know, honey. i've been there before, and it'll be okay," but she tried to help by telling me all about how to do it. i'm not sure she understands that that made me feel three inches tall.
i get treated like i don't know what i'm doing all the time. by clients, co-workers, parents. i'm pretty used to people not having much faith in me, and it hurts a little bit to have someone i care about a lot treat me in a similar fashion, even if she didn't mean to, didn't realize that's how it felt to me.
i thought i was being pretty respectful. i know that nobody wants to have his help, his wisdom, his guidance rejected. i did attempt to be gentle. i wasn't angry, though i may have been a touch annoyed. i can forgive her much more than i can forgive other people.
i know i have my limits. i know there will probably be a day when i will need her help, and i don't want her to feel like i don't welcome it or appreciate it. i'm afraid i don't know how to make her understand, though.
i hope she's not as frustrated as i am.