There's one of you. Just the one. Then there is everyone else. The innumerable people you'll encounter, share varied levels of trust or intimacy with & part/sever those ties amicably or forcibly. Who is it easier to blame for the seeming inability of those relationships to foster? All those you've met & the many you have yet to meet? For all their differences, similarities, pros, cons, they're individuals. Just like yourself; they must have their own reasons for doing what they do. Or is it easier to put the onus on yourself. To succumb to a base human compulsion whereby deducing that a seemingly random series of actions or behaviour, constitutes a pattern (that you can base an assessment of character on). Fuck.That.Shit.
You know yourself (better than most people, i'd say) & you know that to withdraw from people entirely, would not quell the hurt you're experiencing. Just because the pain you feel is internal, doesn't mean it's catalyst isn't external!
It's not you, it's them. Whether or not these people are looking for the same things as yourself (love, companionship, etc) isn't as relevant as how much they value exactly what goes into it (honesty, trust, a willingness to accept that vulnerability is a part of sharing yourself with others). Don't compromise. Don't settle. What you deserve is by no means unreasonable & fuck anyone who tries to make you feel otherwise.
Then there is everyone else. The innumerable people you'll encounter, share varied levels of trust or intimacy with & part/sever those ties amicably or forcibly.
Who is it easier to blame for the seeming inability of those relationships to foster? All those you've met & the many you have yet to meet? For all their differences, similarities, pros, cons, they're individuals. Just like yourself; they must have their own reasons for doing what they do.
Or is it easier to put the onus on yourself. To succumb to a base human compulsion whereby deducing that a seemingly random series of actions or behaviour, constitutes a pattern (that you can base an assessment of character on).
Fuck.That.Shit.
You know yourself (better than most people, i'd say) & you know that to withdraw from people entirely, would not quell the hurt you're experiencing. Just because the pain you feel is internal, doesn't mean it's catalyst isn't external!
It's not you, it's them. Whether or not these people are looking for the same things as yourself (love, companionship, etc) isn't as relevant as how much they value exactly what goes into it (honesty, trust, a willingness to accept that vulnerability is a part of sharing yourself with others).
Don't compromise. Don't settle. What you deserve is by no means unreasonable & fuck anyone who tries to make you feel otherwise.
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