"Searching for sex"
Реальность и страхи, связанные с сексуальностью, на основе данных Гугля: очень интересно!
Понятно, что завышают в опросах: "Men who have never been married claim to average 29 condom uses per year. This is more than the total number of condoms sold in the United States to married and single people combined." :)
Опровергается традиционное мнение, что именно женщины массово отказывают:
There are more complaints that a boyfriend “won’t have sex” than that a “girlfriend” won’t. Complaints about “husbands” and “wives” are roughly equal.
К интересным выводам приходит автор, пытаясь ответить на вопрос: Sex can be quite fun. Why do we have so little of it?
Люди обоего пола очень обеспокоены тем, как выглядят разные части их тела, и тратят чертову кучу времени на поиск информации об их улучшении, а потом денег и времени на это улучшение.
Последняя часть мне очень понравилась:
I AM hardly an expert on sex. Professionally, I am neither a psychologist nor a sex therapist.
But here’s what I think.
Just about every study I have done relying on Google searches made me feel worse about the world. Huge numbers of people are racist and sexist; far too many children suffer from unreported abuse. But after studying the new data on sex, I actually feel better.
This data makes me feel less lonely. In my previous studies of Google data, I had found the viciousness that humans often hide. But this time around, I have seen our hidden insecurities. Men and women are united in this insecurity and confusion.
Google also gives us legitimate reasons to worry less than we do. Many of our deepest fears about how our sexual partners perceive us are unjustified. Alone, at their computers, with no incentive to lie, partners reveal themselves to be fairly nonsuperficial and forgiving. In fact, we are all so busy judging our own bodies that there is little energy left over to judge other people’s.
Maybe if we worried less about sex, we’d have more of it.
Понятно, что завышают в опросах: "Men who have never been married claim to average 29 condom uses per year. This is more than the total number of condoms sold in the United States to married and single people combined." :)
Опровергается традиционное мнение, что именно женщины массово отказывают:
There are more complaints that a boyfriend “won’t have sex” than that a “girlfriend” won’t. Complaints about “husbands” and “wives” are roughly equal.
К интересным выводам приходит автор, пытаясь ответить на вопрос: Sex can be quite fun. Why do we have so little of it?
Люди обоего пола очень обеспокоены тем, как выглядят разные части их тела, и тратят чертову кучу времени на поиск информации об их улучшении, а потом денег и времени на это улучшение.
Последняя часть мне очень понравилась:
I AM hardly an expert on sex. Professionally, I am neither a psychologist nor a sex therapist.
But here’s what I think.
Just about every study I have done relying on Google searches made me feel worse about the world. Huge numbers of people are racist and sexist; far too many children suffer from unreported abuse. But after studying the new data on sex, I actually feel better.
This data makes me feel less lonely. In my previous studies of Google data, I had found the viciousness that humans often hide. But this time around, I have seen our hidden insecurities. Men and women are united in this insecurity and confusion.
Google also gives us legitimate reasons to worry less than we do. Many of our deepest fears about how our sexual partners perceive us are unjustified. Alone, at their computers, with no incentive to lie, partners reveal themselves to be fairly nonsuperficial and forgiving. In fact, we are all so busy judging our own bodies that there is little energy left over to judge other people’s.
Maybe if we worried less about sex, we’d have more of it.