speaking as someone who's been therecarmielJanuary 17 2009, 05:51:10 UTC
When do you see the head-shrinker again? Zir needs to seriously consider you for an anti-depressant. I recognise those symptoms; I got them when I needed help after my sister died and my whole family was a mess. Zoloft was a godsend. (I was a wreck but had to keep it together to help my parents and I wasn't up to the challenge.) The challenge of Colleen's health situation may be just that much too much for you. I don't want you to think I'm being mean, please, I'm only posting this because I *was there* and remember what it was like.
Re: speaking as someone who's been theremdlbearJanuary 17 2009, 06:17:45 UTC
Tuesday morning.
No, I believe you. This is the first time in a while -- maybe ever -- when I've seriously considered risking antidepressants. From everything I've heard they're either a godsend or a nightmare. With my luck, the latter, but even that might be an improvement at this point.
Even I can tell that I'm in serious trouble right now.
Re: speaking as someone who's been therekshandraJanuary 17 2009, 06:51:26 UTC
I trust that you already know this intellectually, but hopefully some reinforcement will help it register with the emotions: If the first pill doesn't work, please, for love of fish, don't give up. It took us several attempts before finding the right combination of medications, formulations*, and dosages to make me functional again.
And as far as having "no damned reason for it," I respectfully, but emphatically, disagree. Your wife is critically, chronically ill. Your eldest daughter is within weeks of moving away from home for the first time. You're in a volatile industry (admittedly, in one of the more stable niches, but still) in a highly volatile financial era. Any two of those would be plenty of reason
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Re: speaking as someone who's been theremdlbearJanuary 17 2009, 15:12:31 UTC
I can't very well continue the talk therapy until after I've started it, but that's the plan. Even if drugs help the depression, I have enough other things going on that I need some pretty intensive (re)training.
In both cases the need to search, perhaps for years, for the right drug/person is frustrating.
What everybody else has said. Please do consider at least short-term use of antidepressants (and keep in mind what's been said about trying various medications to find out which one works best for you). But don't give up on the psychological aspects as well - the way I understand it, the drugs make it possible for the psychologist's techniques to get through to you.
And if hugs don't work, that's another good indicator that you may need medication. See, hugging normally causes your body to release its own soothing neurotransmitters... so if hugs don't make you feel better, your neurotransmitters are depleted.
If you're still up....hvideoJanuary 17 2009, 07:19:10 UTC
It isn't a "day without walking" until midnight. I could drive over and we could walk somewhere together.
Have you tried anti-histamines for your (suspected) allergy? Even if that wouldn't tell you WHAT you were allergic too, knowing that it actually IS an allergy would help narrow things down (or, if it ISN'T an allergy, again things have been narrowed down.)
With "too much to do", sometimes it helps to avoid looking at the total pile and just grab any of the smallest jobs. Once something has actually been finished, it sometimes seems to break the ice and makes it easier to begin the next task.
Re: If you're still up....mdlbearJanuary 17 2009, 15:09:55 UTC
Claritin seems to work a little; haven't tried anything stronger but it might be worthwhile experimenting on a day when I don't have to get up at any particular time.
I can't honestly speak to the anti-depressants and whatnot, but you've certainly got enough on your plate lately; depression sounds like a perfectly normal and reasonable reaction. Not that you want to stay there, but like everyone above has said, seeking some help sounds like a good plan. You're not alone. *massive hugs*
See a doctor, that sounds like it might be other-than-neurological illness. If you've got a "cold" you can't shake, look into the possibility that it might be a bacterial infection.
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I don't want you to think I'm being mean, please, I'm only posting this because I *was there* and remember what it was like.
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No, I believe you. This is the first time in a while -- maybe ever -- when I've seriously considered risking antidepressants. From everything I've heard they're either a godsend or a nightmare. With my luck, the latter, but even that might be an improvement at this point.
Even I can tell that I'm in serious trouble right now.
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And as far as having "no damned reason for it," I respectfully, but emphatically, disagree. Your wife is critically, chronically ill. Your eldest daughter is within weeks of moving away from home for the first time. You're in a volatile industry (admittedly, in one of the more stable niches, but still) in a highly volatile financial era. Any two of those would be plenty of reason ( ... )
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In both cases the need to search, perhaps for years, for the right drug/person is frustrating.
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And if hugs don't work, that's another good indicator that you may need medication. See, hugging normally causes your body to release its own soothing neurotransmitters... so if hugs don't make you feel better, your neurotransmitters are depleted.
May I call you Saturday evening?
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Yes, please do. I don't have anything planned.
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It isn't a "day without walking" until midnight. I could drive over and we could walk somewhere together.
Have you tried anti-histamines for your (suspected) allergy? Even if that wouldn't tell you WHAT you were allergic too, knowing that it actually IS an allergy would help narrow things down (or, if it ISN'T an allergy, again things have been narrowed down.)
With "too much to do", sometimes it helps to avoid looking at the total pile and just grab any of the smallest jobs. Once something has actually been finished, it sometimes seems to break the ice and makes it easier to begin the next task.
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You're not alone.
*massive hugs*
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