what we always wanted you to know - from your mom
anonymous
June 12 2007, 12:55:52 UTC
I think you are doing a beautiful job in raising Adriyanna... and when it comes to those tough times, she will know that you love her. Even when she says she hates you, she will know that you love her. Even when her dad calls her metal-mouth, she will know that he loves her.
No one can take away the pain and agony and joy and fun of the childhood. And no one should try to. These days, as well as all of the days of her life, will shape the person she becomes. And she needs to experience them all herself. I know you really want her to learn from your mistakes (and your pain and your hurt).. but the truth is, she has to have her own. Think about it - would you want her to learn the great things in life because you also had fun? Don't you want her to learn those things herself as well? Without the lows in life, how can you feel the highs?
Let me ask you this question - While you felt the loneliness of being unique... wouldn't you rather she be strong enough and independent enough to also be herself? Or would you rather she become one of those mean girls that follow (or lead) the pack based on the car they drive or the group they hang with?
See, the thing is, I don't know a single female that I respect that did not feel this way through those years. As well as males (just ask your dad). But maybe that's the thing. Those of us that are strong enough to be ourselves, to not give in to the pressure, realize in the end how beautiful we truly are.
In the words of Regina Spektor: This is how it works You're young until you're not You love until you don't You try until you can't You laugh until you cry You cry until you laugh And everyone must breathe Until their dying breath
No, this is how it works You peer inside yourself You take the things you like And try to love the things you took And then you take that love you made And stick it into some Someone else's heart Pumping someone else's blood And walking arm in arm You hope it don't get harmed But even if it does You'll just do it all again
No one can take away the pain and agony and joy and fun of the childhood. And no one should try to. These days, as well as all of the days of her life, will shape the person she becomes. And she needs to experience them all herself. I know you really want her to learn from your mistakes (and your pain and your hurt).. but the truth is, she has to have her own. Think about it - would you want her to learn the great things in life because you also had fun? Don't you want her to learn those things herself as well? Without the lows in life, how can you feel the highs?
Let me ask you this question - While you felt the loneliness of being unique... wouldn't you rather she be strong enough and independent enough to also be herself? Or would you rather she become one of those mean girls that follow (or lead) the pack based on the car they drive or the group they hang with?
See, the thing is, I don't know a single female that I respect that did not feel this way through those years. As well as males (just ask your dad). But maybe that's the thing. Those of us that are strong enough to be ourselves, to not give in to the pressure, realize in the end how beautiful we truly are.
In the words of Regina Spektor: This is how it works
You're young until you're not
You love until you don't
You try until you can't
You laugh until you cry
You cry until you laugh
And everyone must breathe
Until their dying breath
No, this is how it works
You peer inside yourself
You take the things you like
And try to love the things you took
And then you take that love you made
And stick it into some
Someone else's heart
Pumping someone else's blood
And walking arm in arm
You hope it don't get harmed
But even if it does
You'll just do it all again
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