on HR3, rape culture, and mansplaining
So today I was discussing HR3 with one of my friends, who had posted a link on how they took away the rape redefinition. And it was going well. Until a guy came in to say, "Date rape is a tricky concept and I am opposed to force but I don't like to say 'I regret it so it was rape'". I replied that the "I regret consensual sex so I'ma deem it rape" is a strawman so please, can we not? And he said that to be a strawman, something has to not exist. I replied that I'm uncomfortable having guys come in to try to define what does and doesn't count as rape and whose first thought during a discussion of rape is "but what about wrongful accusations?" So he flounced, saying, "Oh well, I guess penis-ed Americans aren't welcome to talk."
Why? Why do men keep derailing discussions of rape - and here it wasn't even rape, but about a proposed addendum to the Hyde Amendment, with trying to split hairs on what does and doesn't count as rape? And how do you deal?
Why? Why do men keep derailing discussions of rape - and here it wasn't even rape, but about a proposed addendum to the Hyde Amendment, with trying to split hairs on what does and doesn't count as rape? And how do you deal?