Life sucks and I need to find a flat.
Things are not going well. But when do they?
My gran is as bad as ever. Her hip is so bad that she will never walk again, and is essentially bedridden. There isn't enough muscle around the hip to properly keep it in place, so there is a constant danger of it popping out again. Also she is in constant need of painkillers for the pain.
Two nurses are needed to move her position every now and then so she doesn't get sore. She can sit for a couple of hours a day in a chair but needs a hoist to get into it and out of it. She has a catheter in, and has to have diapers on, and when she goes two nurses are needed again to clean her up and change her.
It doesn't look like she'll be able to properly swallow and eat or drink again, so she's had a procedure to be fitted with a feeding tube into her stomach through which she is fed and hydrated. Her mouth gets very dry and every few hours someone has to moisturise it.
She can't speak properly yet, and I don't know if she ever will. She has lost movement to her right arm and her right shoulder is in constant danger of being dislocated.
There is nothing more the hospital can do and they are pushing for her to be discharged. She wants to come home and that is what my aunt is pushing for. Her coming home means getting rid of a lot of furniture so we can fit in the hospital bed and necessary equipment. She wants to be put in the living room so that means the living room will be turned into a bedroom. The council will send carers four times a day to check up on her. But as I said, moving her or cleaning her is something that needs two people. So if she messes herself, she will have to wait until the next carers' visit to be cleaned up.
I don't find this to be a viable solution. Neither does my mother or my uncle. We believe a care home were there will always be carers on call is the best thing. Care homes are amazingly expensive, so we would have to sell the house and even then I'm guessing we would only be able to cover five years' fees.
There either is going to be a fight in the family, or else she will come home and die soon. In any case everyone is miserable and upset and there is no good solution.
Whatever happens I need to find a new place to stay. I can't stay with an invalid who will be in constant pain and will be demanding me to do things I am not capable of doing. With my current wage I can't afford to pay rent, so that is a problem. It's not like jobs grow on trees in London.
Anyway, asking all Londoners, if anyone knows of any really - I mean really, like £400 p.m. max - cheap rooms in London let me know. I would prefer zone 3 on the northern or picadilly line, but that might be too much to ask.
My gran is as bad as ever. Her hip is so bad that she will never walk again, and is essentially bedridden. There isn't enough muscle around the hip to properly keep it in place, so there is a constant danger of it popping out again. Also she is in constant need of painkillers for the pain.
Two nurses are needed to move her position every now and then so she doesn't get sore. She can sit for a couple of hours a day in a chair but needs a hoist to get into it and out of it. She has a catheter in, and has to have diapers on, and when she goes two nurses are needed again to clean her up and change her.
It doesn't look like she'll be able to properly swallow and eat or drink again, so she's had a procedure to be fitted with a feeding tube into her stomach through which she is fed and hydrated. Her mouth gets very dry and every few hours someone has to moisturise it.
She can't speak properly yet, and I don't know if she ever will. She has lost movement to her right arm and her right shoulder is in constant danger of being dislocated.
There is nothing more the hospital can do and they are pushing for her to be discharged. She wants to come home and that is what my aunt is pushing for. Her coming home means getting rid of a lot of furniture so we can fit in the hospital bed and necessary equipment. She wants to be put in the living room so that means the living room will be turned into a bedroom. The council will send carers four times a day to check up on her. But as I said, moving her or cleaning her is something that needs two people. So if she messes herself, she will have to wait until the next carers' visit to be cleaned up.
I don't find this to be a viable solution. Neither does my mother or my uncle. We believe a care home were there will always be carers on call is the best thing. Care homes are amazingly expensive, so we would have to sell the house and even then I'm guessing we would only be able to cover five years' fees.
There either is going to be a fight in the family, or else she will come home and die soon. In any case everyone is miserable and upset and there is no good solution.
Whatever happens I need to find a new place to stay. I can't stay with an invalid who will be in constant pain and will be demanding me to do things I am not capable of doing. With my current wage I can't afford to pay rent, so that is a problem. It's not like jobs grow on trees in London.
Anyway, asking all Londoners, if anyone knows of any really - I mean really, like £400 p.m. max - cheap rooms in London let me know. I would prefer zone 3 on the northern or picadilly line, but that might be too much to ask.