In re: to Polling the f-list

[mawychick]

I had a lady I was playing phone tag with yesterday - we'd never actually spoken on the phone before - return my call at 9:40 and leave a message - never apologizing for the hour of her call. My momma has me trained - NO phone calls after 9pm unless you know the person is up and not going to be bothered by your call! I was shocked - so I wanted

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[courtly]

For me the rule was usually 10pm actually.

But how would I have reacted? Just let the call go to voicemail and check it in the morning.

[mawychick]

curiosity would always get the better of me;) We also no longer have a home line, so the cell is always in the bedroom in case of emergency calls. Not that we were even upstairs to get the call, or bothered by the hour. It's more of a principle thing with me.

[courtly]

But what principle? And what's the appropriate reaction?

Is it fair to assume others were raised with the same rules as yourself (I personally was raised with "don't call acquaintances after 10", as an example... probably because our households tended to go to bed later).

I tend to find it doesn't pay to assume that someone has transgressed unless you know they're aware of the rule they're transgressing.

[mawychick]

I think that it was ingrained in me as a Southern sort of rule that everyone knew..which is why I'm surprised when it's not. Hence the polling;) The other factor, which I hadn't remembered to include earlier was that this woman is easily twenty five years my senior - I'd also assumed that her age would pitch her more into my territory of expectations. Obviously, years of assumption should have taught me it's a bad idea by now;)

[courtly]

Also it's kinda weird to me, but it actually might make a difference to me what sort of phone it is, or professes to be

[mawychick]

Look, you've gotta leave my barn out of it..I was obsessed with rain on a tin roof;)

Nah, actually, she lives locally but that's all I can tell you.