The Ballad of Kailey and Wesley
Wesley: Happy Anniversary, my love.
I'm thankful for you.
Back in the fall of 2004, I was the new girl at school. I got involved in choir and drama and met a whole bunch of new awesome people. It took me a while to really feel accepted, but it eventually happened.
A few of you may have heard that my first memory of Wesley was backstage during The Butter and Egg Man, where he was drawing El Gato de La Noche/Le chat du soir on the backs of posters and telling Harrison that God hated the Jews. I was intrigued by most of the people I met in drama, but Wesley especially because he was just really funny and people seemed to like him despite his tendency for sarcastic anti-semitism and the like. :P This definitely was not love at first sight though. lol.
I got to be good friends with Wesley and the whole group through various drama, choir/band and LHP events, The Arts Cruise, Hello Dolly, parties, and Drama 1 class during the rest of freshman year. But, even by summer of 2005, my crush on him hadn't surfaced at all. I spent a whole summer with any real hanging out with or much thinking about any of the LHP crew. There is a whole Big Red Book (Volume 1) without any mention of Wesley in it! Blows my mind when thinking about how many text messages, inside jokes, poems, and lyric ideas/songs about him that are in those now.
I'd say I first started having feelings for Wesley in July 2005, but I don't think I even really realized it until maybe September (during Our Town). In late July of 2005, I went to go see Crazy For You at The Rep. Emily was in it :) I happened to go on a night where Neil, Rachael, Dawson, Harrison, and Wesley all went as well. I sat next to Wesley. lol. Wesley, Rachel,Harrison, Emily, Jason, and I all went to WPV afterwards and had Johnny Rockets. It was a blast. Afterwards I think this might have been the first time that Wesley ever drove me home. But i'm not sure.
So, the fall semester of my sophomore year started. This was a very good school year (not just for what happened on November 23rd, though that was a big part). Our Town started and I had a disappointment about casting. Wesley was the one to break the news and later when he found out that his delivery of the news caused me to burst into tears, He IMed me to apologize even though it realy wasn't his fault at all. From then on we started to talk online sporadically. Our Town turned out to be ALOT of fun for so many reasons that I won't get into right now. But, Wesley started driving me home a good portion of the time and we got to know each other a little more. I definitely knew I had a crush on him by the time homecoming came around. But, I was a silly insecure 15 year old girl who assumed he didn't like me back because he was a senior and he flirted with many of the girls in drama/choir so why should I feel special when he pays attention to me? So, I kept it a "secret" but I'm pretty sure everyone knew anyway. I wrote a poem called "Message" in October contemplating this. I put it on this livejournal. The message of "Message" was kind of obvious. :P
I had my 16th birthday party. It was huge and so much fun. The Clergymen played. We had like 20 people on my trampoline. I got lots of cool presents. Wesley gave me earrings that had both of my favorite colors in them. On the trampoline, Megan and I were discussing Sharina Nandwani's upcoming 16th birthday party on the wednesday of Thanksgiving Break. Megan asked if I was bringing a date and I said "I don't really know who to bring." So she looked at Wesley and said he should go with me. And that was it.
The day before the party, Wesley called me. He said he wanted to take me on a real date before being my date for the party. I was quite excited but I couldn't just say yes like I wanted to. I had to ask my parents, who weren't home. I told him I would call him back. LOL. that's definitely what you want to hear when you ask a girl out, right? I ended up having to ask my Dad and he was hesitant. At the time, and for a few months after this, my parents weren't that fond of the fact that I'd be dating someone 2 years older (Now of course, they love him). But, he said I could go. :) So we saw Rent. He did the yawn-and-put-your-arm-around-her move. Suave :PP I still have a portion of the ticket stub for this movie date. It's inside a locket given to me by Wesley after 1 month of dating. Remember when 6 months seemed so long? lol
So, we separated and met up at the party, where we had our first kiss and got walked in on in the elevator by a shocked brent zwirn. This became somewhat of a iconic story among brent and the girls I sat with at lunch. haha.
So, we were then together. And now, 4 years later we are still together. It's crazy. Hardly anyone I know besides parents have been together as long as us. It's been amazing, but not all of it has been easy. A few of the things we've deal with over the years include: disapproval/misunderstanding from various adults, deciding to do long distance, my decision to go to a different college than UF (thus, making the long distance longer), and Wesley's recent diagnosis with Ulcerative Colitis. But, we grow stronger every day and even if this love isn't my last (God forbid), there will always be a place in my heart for Wesley.
I could have never predicted we'd be together this long. I went into high school not looking to find anything like this, and yet I found it so young.
We are still so young. It scares me sometimes.
He has been a source of unconditional support and love. And even if he doesn't understand sometimes when I get crazy-girl-emotional, he is there for me anyway and he is honest with me. He always sticks up for me.
We said "I love you" very early in the relationship, which is usually not considered a good thing. We also have never fought. He has never raised his voice to me. This is also considered to be a bad thing. I don't see why. Sure, we can get on each others nerves sometimes, but I feel that we do a great job just talking it out.
We are definitely unique. lol
I'm no relationship expert, but here's a short list of things that (off the top of my head) I think contributed to our longevity so far and are important to any relationship:
1.Compliments: Wesley and I always compliment each other, multiple times a day when we're together. Wesley is especially good at finding new ways to say stuff he's already said so it doesn't get boring or seem insincere. I feel that instilling confidence in one another (not like Wes needs it...lol)and making each other feel good is very important.
2.Having your own lives outside of the relationship: I think this is a big one. The fact that we go to different schools, have our own aspirations, and also participate in activities without each other occassionally keep a balance. Everyone needs their own "me time" no matter how much you love someone. And when you are away from that person (whether it be for an hour, a day or so, or a few weeks) you appreciate them more for what they bring into your life that isn't there when you are apart. I feel this contributes to the fact that after 4 years, we still never run out of things to talk about. AND we know we can handle seeing each other every day for long time periods without getting bored because we've done that in high school as well as over winter and summer breaks.
3. Communication/Honesty: It's always hard to be completely open and honest. I still have trouble with the "open" part. But we strive to be always honest with each other, and so far I don't think either of us has even had a reason to lie. Being non-judgemental and forgiving with each other helps too.
4.Humor/Not taking yourself too seriously: In the beginning there will always be embarassing moments and strange new experiences. It seemed harder for me since I'm a woman and in the beginning of the relationship I was somewhat insecure and new at everything. But, the cool part was, he was too. So we always try to approach things like that with humor and understanding. If you take yourself too seriously you could take out a good portion of the fun and light-heartedness that goes with being in love. <3
And yes, this is the abridged version, believe it or not, haha. Just think of how long the livejournal entry would be if I documented the whole 4 years? Jeez.
Can't wait for Thanksgiving.
I'm hoping to leave tommorrow around noon or so. Yay.
Party at my house on wednesday, yo. :D
When I get back from thanksgiving break I'll have 3 exams and then the weekend after thanksgiving I have my last religion to write (Islam, eh)as well as Kappa Kappa Gamma semi-formal.
OH! that reminds me. I was just chosen/elected to be the new Vice President of Communications for the Panhellenic Association at UM for the year 2010. :) I'll start my job sometime after school starts next semester. Basically, I'm one of 7 main officers in the student government of sororities. I'm part of the Panhellenic Executive Board. I'm so happy, honored, and excited to get more involved in panhellenic and greek life. I'm also the only Kappa who got on the list.
Also, I am absolutely loving being in Kappa right now.
I got an A- on my religion paper. I wrote it about how Elie Wiesel's response to the Holocaust (laid out in Night), as well as Judaism as a whole, is inherently linked to the ideas of Liberation Theology. I am pretty proud of it. If you want to read it I could possibly post it for possible discussion and/or critiquing.
I have to fold laundry and pack for my awesome 5ish days at home.
Goodnight!
<3
I'm thankful for you.
Back in the fall of 2004, I was the new girl at school. I got involved in choir and drama and met a whole bunch of new awesome people. It took me a while to really feel accepted, but it eventually happened.
A few of you may have heard that my first memory of Wesley was backstage during The Butter and Egg Man, where he was drawing El Gato de La Noche/Le chat du soir on the backs of posters and telling Harrison that God hated the Jews. I was intrigued by most of the people I met in drama, but Wesley especially because he was just really funny and people seemed to like him despite his tendency for sarcastic anti-semitism and the like. :P This definitely was not love at first sight though. lol.
I got to be good friends with Wesley and the whole group through various drama, choir/band and LHP events, The Arts Cruise, Hello Dolly, parties, and Drama 1 class during the rest of freshman year. But, even by summer of 2005, my crush on him hadn't surfaced at all. I spent a whole summer with any real hanging out with or much thinking about any of the LHP crew. There is a whole Big Red Book (Volume 1) without any mention of Wesley in it! Blows my mind when thinking about how many text messages, inside jokes, poems, and lyric ideas/songs about him that are in those now.
I'd say I first started having feelings for Wesley in July 2005, but I don't think I even really realized it until maybe September (during Our Town). In late July of 2005, I went to go see Crazy For You at The Rep. Emily was in it :) I happened to go on a night where Neil, Rachael, Dawson, Harrison, and Wesley all went as well. I sat next to Wesley. lol. Wesley, Rachel,Harrison, Emily, Jason, and I all went to WPV afterwards and had Johnny Rockets. It was a blast. Afterwards I think this might have been the first time that Wesley ever drove me home. But i'm not sure.
So, the fall semester of my sophomore year started. This was a very good school year (not just for what happened on November 23rd, though that was a big part). Our Town started and I had a disappointment about casting. Wesley was the one to break the news and later when he found out that his delivery of the news caused me to burst into tears, He IMed me to apologize even though it realy wasn't his fault at all. From then on we started to talk online sporadically. Our Town turned out to be ALOT of fun for so many reasons that I won't get into right now. But, Wesley started driving me home a good portion of the time and we got to know each other a little more. I definitely knew I had a crush on him by the time homecoming came around. But, I was a silly insecure 15 year old girl who assumed he didn't like me back because he was a senior and he flirted with many of the girls in drama/choir so why should I feel special when he pays attention to me? So, I kept it a "secret" but I'm pretty sure everyone knew anyway. I wrote a poem called "Message" in October contemplating this. I put it on this livejournal. The message of "Message" was kind of obvious. :P
I had my 16th birthday party. It was huge and so much fun. The Clergymen played. We had like 20 people on my trampoline. I got lots of cool presents. Wesley gave me earrings that had both of my favorite colors in them. On the trampoline, Megan and I were discussing Sharina Nandwani's upcoming 16th birthday party on the wednesday of Thanksgiving Break. Megan asked if I was bringing a date and I said "I don't really know who to bring." So she looked at Wesley and said he should go with me. And that was it.
The day before the party, Wesley called me. He said he wanted to take me on a real date before being my date for the party. I was quite excited but I couldn't just say yes like I wanted to. I had to ask my parents, who weren't home. I told him I would call him back. LOL. that's definitely what you want to hear when you ask a girl out, right? I ended up having to ask my Dad and he was hesitant. At the time, and for a few months after this, my parents weren't that fond of the fact that I'd be dating someone 2 years older (Now of course, they love him). But, he said I could go. :) So we saw Rent. He did the yawn-and-put-your-arm-around-her move. Suave :PP I still have a portion of the ticket stub for this movie date. It's inside a locket given to me by Wesley after 1 month of dating. Remember when 6 months seemed so long? lol
So, we separated and met up at the party, where we had our first kiss and got walked in on in the elevator by a shocked brent zwirn. This became somewhat of a iconic story among brent and the girls I sat with at lunch. haha.
So, we were then together. And now, 4 years later we are still together. It's crazy. Hardly anyone I know besides parents have been together as long as us. It's been amazing, but not all of it has been easy. A few of the things we've deal with over the years include: disapproval/misunderstanding from various adults, deciding to do long distance, my decision to go to a different college than UF (thus, making the long distance longer), and Wesley's recent diagnosis with Ulcerative Colitis. But, we grow stronger every day and even if this love isn't my last (God forbid), there will always be a place in my heart for Wesley.
I could have never predicted we'd be together this long. I went into high school not looking to find anything like this, and yet I found it so young.
We are still so young. It scares me sometimes.
He has been a source of unconditional support and love. And even if he doesn't understand sometimes when I get crazy-girl-emotional, he is there for me anyway and he is honest with me. He always sticks up for me.
We said "I love you" very early in the relationship, which is usually not considered a good thing. We also have never fought. He has never raised his voice to me. This is also considered to be a bad thing. I don't see why. Sure, we can get on each others nerves sometimes, but I feel that we do a great job just talking it out.
We are definitely unique. lol
I'm no relationship expert, but here's a short list of things that (off the top of my head) I think contributed to our longevity so far and are important to any relationship:
1.Compliments: Wesley and I always compliment each other, multiple times a day when we're together. Wesley is especially good at finding new ways to say stuff he's already said so it doesn't get boring or seem insincere. I feel that instilling confidence in one another (not like Wes needs it...lol)and making each other feel good is very important.
2.Having your own lives outside of the relationship: I think this is a big one. The fact that we go to different schools, have our own aspirations, and also participate in activities without each other occassionally keep a balance. Everyone needs their own "me time" no matter how much you love someone. And when you are away from that person (whether it be for an hour, a day or so, or a few weeks) you appreciate them more for what they bring into your life that isn't there when you are apart. I feel this contributes to the fact that after 4 years, we still never run out of things to talk about. AND we know we can handle seeing each other every day for long time periods without getting bored because we've done that in high school as well as over winter and summer breaks.
3. Communication/Honesty: It's always hard to be completely open and honest. I still have trouble with the "open" part. But we strive to be always honest with each other, and so far I don't think either of us has even had a reason to lie. Being non-judgemental and forgiving with each other helps too.
4.Humor/Not taking yourself too seriously: In the beginning there will always be embarassing moments and strange new experiences. It seemed harder for me since I'm a woman and in the beginning of the relationship I was somewhat insecure and new at everything. But, the cool part was, he was too. So we always try to approach things like that with humor and understanding. If you take yourself too seriously you could take out a good portion of the fun and light-heartedness that goes with being in love. <3
And yes, this is the abridged version, believe it or not, haha. Just think of how long the livejournal entry would be if I documented the whole 4 years? Jeez.
Can't wait for Thanksgiving.
I'm hoping to leave tommorrow around noon or so. Yay.
Party at my house on wednesday, yo. :D
When I get back from thanksgiving break I'll have 3 exams and then the weekend after thanksgiving I have my last religion to write (Islam, eh)as well as Kappa Kappa Gamma semi-formal.
OH! that reminds me. I was just chosen/elected to be the new Vice President of Communications for the Panhellenic Association at UM for the year 2010. :) I'll start my job sometime after school starts next semester. Basically, I'm one of 7 main officers in the student government of sororities. I'm part of the Panhellenic Executive Board. I'm so happy, honored, and excited to get more involved in panhellenic and greek life. I'm also the only Kappa who got on the list.
Also, I am absolutely loving being in Kappa right now.
I got an A- on my religion paper. I wrote it about how Elie Wiesel's response to the Holocaust (laid out in Night), as well as Judaism as a whole, is inherently linked to the ideas of Liberation Theology. I am pretty proud of it. If you want to read it I could possibly post it for possible discussion and/or critiquing.
I have to fold laundry and pack for my awesome 5ish days at home.
Goodnight!
<3