I think so too, but a father's eyes often see beauty where others don't. Thank you for the comment. She actually gets told often when we are out that she is a beautiful little girl. I wonder at times how that will affect her later. I also wonder what will happen if the new baby isn't as beautiful in the eyes of others.
Something else is that Alexa was having some health problems, and her hair fell out (the reason it is now cut short and/or broken off in clumps in various places), and the change in her looks, the way she was presented in public, seemed to affect some of my family members, and that created a situation in which I felt . . . I don't know; I can't quite explain it. Seemed her value had decreased because of the loss of her beautiful thick hair, but her value to me hadn't decreased at all. I suppose the important thing is to continue to let Alexa know I love her no matter what and that the opinion of others will vary (but that I will always find her beautiful, that beauty begins on the inside and transfigures the outside, not the other way around).
That's awful, bless her heart. What is wrong with people? My girls have been told by us so often that they are beautiful that they know it--not in a vain way, really, just matter-of-fact. But some day some moron boy will tell one of them that she isn't beautiful and her world will crash. And then I'll go after him with a hammer and well, nevermind. Like Matilda has light "port-wine" stains all over one of her legs and it kills us because we know that she will be so self-conscious about it or someone will notice it and say something that makes her feel ugly. Then I'll have to get another hammer... When they have some kind of self-esteem issue that we are trying to counter, we ask them who are the smartest people they know? "You and Daddy" Well, if the smartest people you know think you're {}, then what is the problem? Why would you listen to someone who isn't as smart? :P It works so far.
Something else is that Alexa was having some health problems, and her hair fell out (the reason it is now cut short and/or broken off in clumps in various places), and the change in her looks, the way she was presented in public, seemed to affect some of my family members, and that created a situation in which I felt . . . I don't know; I can't quite explain it. Seemed her value had decreased because of the loss of her beautiful thick hair, but her value to me hadn't decreased at all. I suppose the important thing is to continue to let Alexa know I love her no matter what and that the opinion of others will vary (but that I will always find her beautiful, that beauty begins on the inside and transfigures the outside, not the other way around).
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Like Matilda has light "port-wine" stains all over one of her legs and it kills us because we know that she will be so self-conscious about it or someone will notice it and say something that makes her feel ugly. Then I'll have to get another hammer...
When they have some kind of self-esteem issue that we are trying to counter, we ask them who are the smartest people they know? "You and Daddy" Well, if the smartest people you know think you're {}, then what is the problem? Why would you listen to someone who isn't as smart? :P
It works so far.
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