First of all I don't think it's odd at all to read your boyfriend's old public blog. I think it's kind of romantic, really. If you had to hack into it, thats another matter, but if it's an old public LJ or something, it's a caring gesture. :)
Secondly, we are all damaged goods to a point. We've all had strife and problems with our parents. While Rory's sounds particularly upsetting, I'd be sure to check my rage at the door when visiting his family. Remember that this is all in their past and everyone has done some growing up and maturing. And even though its fresh in your mind, its history to them.
Since Rory still talks with is parents and apparently his drama-causing Ex, he seems like a forgiving/accommodating type. It wouldn't due for you to come in all defensive and angry about their family history. I'm not saying from this point on you shouldn't keep an eye out for his better interest as far as his family goes, but take your cue for Rory about how to respond to the past (if at all).
I say this because I got into some trouble with my current boyfriend for this same reason. His childhood family life was rough and as I got to know his parents I was holding a grudge about his upbringing that he no longer held. It caused a lot of unnecessary problems. Heh.
Secondly, we are all damaged goods to a point. We've all had strife and problems with our parents. While Rory's sounds particularly upsetting, I'd be sure to check my rage at the door when visiting his family. Remember that this is all in their past and everyone has done some growing up and maturing. And even though its fresh in your mind, its history to them.
Since Rory still talks with is parents and apparently his drama-causing Ex, he seems like a forgiving/accommodating type. It wouldn't due for you to come in all defensive and angry about their family history. I'm not saying from this point on you shouldn't keep an eye out for his better interest as far as his family goes, but take your cue for Rory about how to respond to the past (if at all).
I say this because I got into some trouble with my current boyfriend for this same reason. His childhood family life was rough and as I got to know his parents I was holding a grudge about his upbringing that he no longer held. It caused a lot of unnecessary problems. Heh.
Reply
Leave a comment