Is there a lull in flamewars, or am I just not on the right forums anymore? Summer time, and the living is easy. So I choose now to post this. There's very little point in pointing out essays like this to anyone who is currently hunkered down in a fortress of defensiveness. They'd just feel you're making up rules to impose; and will promptly ask
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I like and believe in that statement pretty strongly. When I think of people whose disagreements turn into bitter arguing, it is from those who don't allow for that.
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Wearing either hat, I think it’d be pathetic to blame users or readers for having difficulty with my work. It’s my job to make myself understood.
Instead of whining about “misreading”, take responsibility for your words. You were unclear.
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That said, *MOST* of the time, the author failed to make him or her self clear. That does not mean that all communications faults are caused by unclear message...sometimes the receiver needs work.
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As a rule (subject to any of those generalization problems), though, I think it is fair to say that step one is to presume initially (for the benefit of the conversation, if not for utter honesty) that the problem is on your end.
Looking back on what I just wrote, I wonder why people say I'm too verbose ...
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I would say I do that about half the time. Unfortunately, the other half of the time, I let loose with invective that would sour milk.
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I suppose I have more patience in those circumstances. I care more about being clearly understood, when possible, than in agreement. I'm pretty cool with having an argument where I don't expect to change minds, but perhaps that's because I enjoy debate more than the average person.
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No, but I've seen several that ended with "I stand corrected" or some version of "you make a good point, but I still disagree"
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