Such an odd view on marriage.
It was weird watching the HnA special with Shimada Shinsuke and Abe Hiroshi. While I found Mr Hiroshi adorable as always :DDD Shimada Shinsuke just kinda…shocked me with his comments.
I don't know if any of my flist has also watched the episode, but his comments on marriage and cheating etc was just too…shocking for me.
He was talking about how he cheated on his wife various times through their marriage, and apparently his wife asked him till when he was going to continue cheating on her, to which he said, "Till I'm 50". I don't know if he was saying this for entertainment's sake or whatever, but that struck me as odd.
But the worst was definitely his attitude towards cheating. I know Nino's stand on cheating, which I cannot stand. But Shimada was going on and on about how he had no choice and he somehow just found himself in these cheating situations, and just…like it was not that big a deal for him to cheat on his wife, or for men to cheat in their marriage in general.
He then said something along the lines of how he keeps trying to keep on the straight and narrow, but he keeps hoping that he somehow gets entangled with someone. I know he was saying this because he was on a variety show (I hope so!) but this is just…not something I would want to hear from my boyfriend/husband. Especially from someone who has cheated on me (possibly multiple times).
But the worst was when he asked Arashi if they could definitely say that they would not cheat during their marriage, to which none of them said an outright yes. Aiba even said that he probably was not able to say for a definite if he would not cheat on his wife.
That kinda….well, it shocked me the most, really. I mean, he's not married, and if my future/current boyfriend was asked if he could for sure say that he would not cheat on me, and he's like "Umm…I'm not sure…", I would dump him ASAP.
It's not that I don't think he will, or know for sure. But the fact that he's admitting this, that he's not sure, it's like he's not fully into the relationship/marriage and he's just not that into me. It's just not right, I think :D I don't know, maybe it's just me that feels like this. I just don't think anyone would feel good if their boyfriend was saying that.
I don't know if its a cultural thing, because even during the show, he was talking on and on about this, and while Arashi was not really agreeing, they kind of seemed to…understand his point? Which is odd, because I feel like his views are pretty skewed :D
And even on Shukudai-kun, Ogura-san also had similar views. I remember when they were asked what they would do the last 3 days before the world ended or something. And his 3rd day was spending it with his wife, and the next day was spending it with a woman. Which is just too…insane for me to comprehend.
I don't know how this essay came about, but just watching this Special, I was so weirded out, haha. Especially after my boyfriend and I broke up after he was cheating on me; maybe I'm just sensitive, haha.
Hope you guys are doing good!~
I don't know if any of my flist has also watched the episode, but his comments on marriage and cheating etc was just too…shocking for me.
He was talking about how he cheated on his wife various times through their marriage, and apparently his wife asked him till when he was going to continue cheating on her, to which he said, "Till I'm 50". I don't know if he was saying this for entertainment's sake or whatever, but that struck me as odd.
But the worst was definitely his attitude towards cheating. I know Nino's stand on cheating, which I cannot stand. But Shimada was going on and on about how he had no choice and he somehow just found himself in these cheating situations, and just…like it was not that big a deal for him to cheat on his wife, or for men to cheat in their marriage in general.
He then said something along the lines of how he keeps trying to keep on the straight and narrow, but he keeps hoping that he somehow gets entangled with someone. I know he was saying this because he was on a variety show (I hope so!) but this is just…not something I would want to hear from my boyfriend/husband. Especially from someone who has cheated on me (possibly multiple times).
But the worst was when he asked Arashi if they could definitely say that they would not cheat during their marriage, to which none of them said an outright yes. Aiba even said that he probably was not able to say for a definite if he would not cheat on his wife.
That kinda….well, it shocked me the most, really. I mean, he's not married, and if my future/current boyfriend was asked if he could for sure say that he would not cheat on me, and he's like "Umm…I'm not sure…", I would dump him ASAP.
It's not that I don't think he will, or know for sure. But the fact that he's admitting this, that he's not sure, it's like he's not fully into the relationship/marriage and he's just not that into me. It's just not right, I think :D I don't know, maybe it's just me that feels like this. I just don't think anyone would feel good if their boyfriend was saying that.
I don't know if its a cultural thing, because even during the show, he was talking on and on about this, and while Arashi was not really agreeing, they kind of seemed to…understand his point? Which is odd, because I feel like his views are pretty skewed :D
And even on Shukudai-kun, Ogura-san also had similar views. I remember when they were asked what they would do the last 3 days before the world ended or something. And his 3rd day was spending it with his wife, and the next day was spending it with a woman. Which is just too…insane for me to comprehend.
I don't know how this essay came about, but just watching this Special, I was so weirded out, haha. Especially after my boyfriend and I broke up after he was cheating on me; maybe I'm just sensitive, haha.
Hope you guys are doing good!~