Amazing and Pathetic
The high point of my existence cannot be saying hello to a woman I know on the subway.
Another friendship has been ruined over not hanging out. I think this brings the total to 7 maybe? Granted some of those people I never met. In every case these people have plenty of friends, so I am the problem. Some possible reasons are:
a) I demand too much from people. (or too much too soon)
b) I can't take a hint that people don't want to be my friend.
c) I am just not interesting enough to be friends with anyone.
d) People are busy and only have time for their real friends.
I'm not going through everything all over again here, but i think the overall point is that i'm not important enough. Yes there are other factors.
First Rachel said she was swamped. Then eventually other reasons came out:
1)no personal invitation
2)me calling only to complain
this is my problem with #2
I went to her party 3 weeks earlier. I had to call her to get the address. If my only calling to complain was a big problem, she should have brought it up then.
maybe "why do you want to come to the party if you only complain to me"
or " I dont want you at my party because you only ever complain on the phone"
If it wasn't mentioned then, it cannot be mentioned now as a reason for not coming to my event. (yes i know there were plenty of other more important reasons)
She also mentioned that she didnt think it was important for her to come.
If someone came to my party, I'd think it was important to go to any event they had.
But then again i wasn't really invited to the party.
Another friendship has been ruined over not hanging out. I think this brings the total to 7 maybe? Granted some of those people I never met. In every case these people have plenty of friends, so I am the problem. Some possible reasons are:
a) I demand too much from people. (or too much too soon)
b) I can't take a hint that people don't want to be my friend.
c) I am just not interesting enough to be friends with anyone.
d) People are busy and only have time for their real friends.
I'm not going through everything all over again here, but i think the overall point is that i'm not important enough. Yes there are other factors.
First Rachel said she was swamped. Then eventually other reasons came out:
1)no personal invitation
2)me calling only to complain
this is my problem with #2
I went to her party 3 weeks earlier. I had to call her to get the address. If my only calling to complain was a big problem, she should have brought it up then.
maybe "why do you want to come to the party if you only complain to me"
or " I dont want you at my party because you only ever complain on the phone"
If it wasn't mentioned then, it cannot be mentioned now as a reason for not coming to my event. (yes i know there were plenty of other more important reasons)
She also mentioned that she didnt think it was important for her to come.
If someone came to my party, I'd think it was important to go to any event they had.
But then again i wasn't really invited to the party.