Friends Only
Gorgeous banner courtesy of my wonderful mrs_jack_turner. *squishes*
Friending this journal.
To understand my so-called "friends policy", I think I need to explain why I'm locking this journal down.
I've had quite a busy time these last few years, trying to balance my first (and very loaded) degree, my health issues (mainly Diabetes), my position as a Students Union chairperson, other RL duties and online life and friendships.
For quite a while now, that's meant that I've not been reading my flist at all.
From this, I've discovered the difficulty of trying to still maintain my friendships here. Basically, I don't get on YIM unless I know have no duty pending (quite rare) and I'm lousy for the same business with e-mails (I try to answer them, but I can't keep it up for too long at any one point in time). Which means that really, my own journal is my only means of communication with all of you. Also, if you post in and address me in ANY WAY in your post, do remember that unless you tell me about it, chances are that I won't know and won't see it.
And I've discovered that it's really important to me, knowing the people on my flist, I mean REALLY knowing them, getting updated on how you all are, what you do, the big events, the silliness of everyday life, the squee or sadness of fandom/s and so on. In short, if I don't hear from you, I get stressed. And when I get stressed, I'm no fun. Not to mention that with my general schedule, stress is not something I feel I'm lacking. ;)
I've also found that I don't feel as free to speak my mind (or my nonsense) as I did when I started out this journal.
So this is the bottom line - I would really like the people who want to stay on this journal to do me the grace of telling me every once in a while how they're doing. It can be small, it can be big, it can be a rant, it can be a random meme, what it is that's occupying you at the time. Once I lock down, I hope people will feel freer about this. And it doesn't have to be too often if that doesn't suit you. Still, I was thinking that I would like to hear from all of you (and I do mean ALL of you who I've friended over the time) at least once a month (or about so).
Is that alright? Can that work for you?
Comment and let me know.
And feel free to always say whatever it is that you want to on my journal. I find that's essential. :) So if you want to tell me that you think my new idea is bullshit, if you wanna talk to me about other possibilities or anything else, go ahead.
I will not be f-locking any of my past posts. There's nothing in them I'm ashamed of, I hope that's okay with everyone.
Thanks for taking the time to read this,
Anne.
(PS - comments screened, just in case. I'll reply to comments, so if you'd rather your comment be left screened, let me know)