Comments for people. . .
Ok, I wasn't exactly tagged, but imaginekp left the options open enough that I can pretend that I was. . . lol
So here we go. We're not supposed to confirm or deny so all I will say that everyone I address here is on my friends list.
List up to ten (10) things you want to say to ten (10) different people. Do not
state who these people are. Do not confirm or deny any 'comment speculation.'
Tag five (5) people.
1. I know you don't really believe this, but you were the first person that I was really comfortable being "out" around. . . in fact you were kind of the one who showed me that it was ok to be gay and taught me a lot about life. OK, yes, some people do think it's kind of funny that my "coming-out" example was a lesbian, but hey, it worked!
2. There’s so many things. . . and stuffs that I could say about you. We’ve known each other for a heck of a long time now and there are times that I have felt somewhat of a “coming out mentor” for you. . . and that’s really been fun. :-) You’ve had rough spots here and there, but you’re doing really well. Good luck with the internship position, and if you get it remember that DC is very close to NYC so you SO have to come see me and experience the NYC nightlife - it’ll blow O-Town to shame.
3. I think you have a lot of potential in ways you don't really see. From reading your journal over the years, I almost get a sense that you tend to set yourself up for a self-fulfilling prophecy in that while you put a lot of pressure on yourself to achieve certain goals at the same time you defeat the purpose by telling yourself that you're not as smart, etc. as others seem to think you are and that causes you anxiety at times. So, continue to set goals, but get rid of the self-hate. Be who you are - not what others want you to be - and you'll do great.
4. I haven’t talked to you in forever! Last time was when you “pulled a Monica” and let me use you as a pillow during my tattoo in NYC. Love ya to death girl and I hope that we can spend more time together when I move up north next month!
5. It's completely appropriate that it is pouring down rain as I write about you. You try and try again to get people to understand you and generally people don't. You're a complex and fascinating person and unfortunately in our community (especially the subset of it in NWA) don't really take the time or care to understand the complex. I know it can be frustrating, but know that you're amazing - embrace the complexity of your personality and use it to your advantage. . . people with a mysterious edge about them can be incredibly attractive, and since you're already quite attractive, learning how to use that mystery can give you the sense of control you sometimes seek. For some reason, one phrase seems to resonate in my head whenever I think of you and that is, "Timing is everything."
6. You've gone through a lot of changes over the past few years and while there are times when I wonder, "What might have been" if circumstances were slightly different, perhaps things have worked out for the best. You seem to be happy now and I hope that trend continues for you.
7. Our friendship has had it's high and low moments, but that's because we're both stubborn bitches that think we know what's best for each other lol. I love you to death - I mean who else would have listened to the neurotic mess I was during my second year as an RA without slapping me repeatedly? I have one major thought when I think of you, "Is the city ready for the scary combination of the two of us?"
8. There are times when you're not as confident as you should be because in many ways, everything is so new to you. You've been out for a short while but have yet to really experience the dating world and are just now finishing up your first year of college and I know that change is scary. But come on, I've told you no telling how many times that you're the cutest thing ever and you should know that if I say it, it's true so stop arguing!! ;-) But if you want help to kind of get your feet wet in a place where the gay community is huge, come visit me in NYC and I'll be your guide to all things great a gay lol. And if you don't think that you're the cutest thing ever when you get there, I will see it as my job to make you believe it by the time you leave.
9. We are way too much alike sometimes and while 99% of the time that's good, there's that 1% that we need to look out for that will cause the words, "You bitch!” to ring, doors to slam and then 15 minutes later will result in a phone call to see where we’re going to dinner that night. . . lol
10. You spend an incredible amount of time hiding behind a mask because you're afraid that if people saw the real you, they wouldn't like you and that is unacceptable for you. What you don't realize is that the person behind the mask is the most loving and beautiful person I've ever met. A big part of me will always love the person behind the mask, but the rest of me will always hate the mask.
So, I tag fun_monkey, tko_ak, alito, gopkidinnsb, and syntryx.
So here we go. We're not supposed to confirm or deny so all I will say that everyone I address here is on my friends list.
List up to ten (10) things you want to say to ten (10) different people. Do not
state who these people are. Do not confirm or deny any 'comment speculation.'
Tag five (5) people.
1. I know you don't really believe this, but you were the first person that I was really comfortable being "out" around. . . in fact you were kind of the one who showed me that it was ok to be gay and taught me a lot about life. OK, yes, some people do think it's kind of funny that my "coming-out" example was a lesbian, but hey, it worked!
2. There’s so many things. . . and stuffs that I could say about you. We’ve known each other for a heck of a long time now and there are times that I have felt somewhat of a “coming out mentor” for you. . . and that’s really been fun. :-) You’ve had rough spots here and there, but you’re doing really well. Good luck with the internship position, and if you get it remember that DC is very close to NYC so you SO have to come see me and experience the NYC nightlife - it’ll blow O-Town to shame.
3. I think you have a lot of potential in ways you don't really see. From reading your journal over the years, I almost get a sense that you tend to set yourself up for a self-fulfilling prophecy in that while you put a lot of pressure on yourself to achieve certain goals at the same time you defeat the purpose by telling yourself that you're not as smart, etc. as others seem to think you are and that causes you anxiety at times. So, continue to set goals, but get rid of the self-hate. Be who you are - not what others want you to be - and you'll do great.
4. I haven’t talked to you in forever! Last time was when you “pulled a Monica” and let me use you as a pillow during my tattoo in NYC. Love ya to death girl and I hope that we can spend more time together when I move up north next month!
5. It's completely appropriate that it is pouring down rain as I write about you. You try and try again to get people to understand you and generally people don't. You're a complex and fascinating person and unfortunately in our community (especially the subset of it in NWA) don't really take the time or care to understand the complex. I know it can be frustrating, but know that you're amazing - embrace the complexity of your personality and use it to your advantage. . . people with a mysterious edge about them can be incredibly attractive, and since you're already quite attractive, learning how to use that mystery can give you the sense of control you sometimes seek. For some reason, one phrase seems to resonate in my head whenever I think of you and that is, "Timing is everything."
6. You've gone through a lot of changes over the past few years and while there are times when I wonder, "What might have been" if circumstances were slightly different, perhaps things have worked out for the best. You seem to be happy now and I hope that trend continues for you.
7. Our friendship has had it's high and low moments, but that's because we're both stubborn bitches that think we know what's best for each other lol. I love you to death - I mean who else would have listened to the neurotic mess I was during my second year as an RA without slapping me repeatedly? I have one major thought when I think of you, "Is the city ready for the scary combination of the two of us?"
8. There are times when you're not as confident as you should be because in many ways, everything is so new to you. You've been out for a short while but have yet to really experience the dating world and are just now finishing up your first year of college and I know that change is scary. But come on, I've told you no telling how many times that you're the cutest thing ever and you should know that if I say it, it's true so stop arguing!! ;-) But if you want help to kind of get your feet wet in a place where the gay community is huge, come visit me in NYC and I'll be your guide to all things great a gay lol. And if you don't think that you're the cutest thing ever when you get there, I will see it as my job to make you believe it by the time you leave.
9. We are way too much alike sometimes and while 99% of the time that's good, there's that 1% that we need to look out for that will cause the words, "You bitch!” to ring, doors to slam and then 15 minutes later will result in a phone call to see where we’re going to dinner that night. . . lol
10. You spend an incredible amount of time hiding behind a mask because you're afraid that if people saw the real you, they wouldn't like you and that is unacceptable for you. What you don't realize is that the person behind the mask is the most loving and beautiful person I've ever met. A big part of me will always love the person behind the mask, but the rest of me will always hate the mask.
So, I tag fun_monkey, tko_ak, alito, gopkidinnsb, and syntryx.