Lots of stuff, and thinky thoughts on D/s.
So, I read this fic, and I have lots of ambivalent feelings about it. This is not a rec, even if it's a well written things. It's also not a 'stay away from', because as I said, it's good, and I was properly warned, so it's really all my fault. The thing is, it's based on a BDSM-world, a world were people are either Doms or Subs, or switches. It's something apparently explored in some other fics by other authors, in other fandoms, but this is the first one I've read, and the only one I'm going to.
The concept of a world where people are divided as such bothers me. It bothers me as a player, and it bothers me as a feminist, because you can basically switch out Dom to man and sub to woman, and voila, you get the 19th century. It bothers me so much that I have a big clump of unreleased tears in my throat as I'm writing this. The most beautiful concept in the world is that of informed consent, and it is my firm belief that without it there can't be romantic love. And while there could possibly be love in such as world, as there probably was in the 19th century, it just... I can't really express why it bothers me so much, I can't get to the root of the problem. But I think it's the same thing as soulmates, or made for each other, or mating in fic. The idea that there is 'the one' out there waiting for us all. It rubs me wrong, as a polyamorous relationship anarchist, as a queer feminist, as someone who's genderfucked. The idea that we are created one way and can't make ourselves something else, that we can't recreate ourselves. This is an issue that goes deep with me. And it's bloody well complicated.
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And now for something completely different: Todays happy moments! The first was, when after taking maximum dose of Paracetamol and maximum dose of Ibuprofen my period cramps finally let up. Seriously, you will not believe how happy I was. Also, les feuilles mortes. I tried to put the pictures in the post but they didn't want to. They were taken a month ago, and if the weather is ok tomorrow I'll go and take some more pics, so you can see the difference. And yes, the blurriness is because of my shaky hands. Not even a digital camera can compensate for that, unfortunately.
And, the finale, todays advent fic can be found here. Doctor Who, Jack/10, pg-13-ish, strange planets!
The concept of a world where people are divided as such bothers me. It bothers me as a player, and it bothers me as a feminist, because you can basically switch out Dom to man and sub to woman, and voila, you get the 19th century. It bothers me so much that I have a big clump of unreleased tears in my throat as I'm writing this. The most beautiful concept in the world is that of informed consent, and it is my firm belief that without it there can't be romantic love. And while there could possibly be love in such as world, as there probably was in the 19th century, it just... I can't really express why it bothers me so much, I can't get to the root of the problem. But I think it's the same thing as soulmates, or made for each other, or mating in fic. The idea that there is 'the one' out there waiting for us all. It rubs me wrong, as a polyamorous relationship anarchist, as a queer feminist, as someone who's genderfucked. The idea that we are created one way and can't make ourselves something else, that we can't recreate ourselves. This is an issue that goes deep with me. And it's bloody well complicated.
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And now for something completely different: Todays happy moments! The first was, when after taking maximum dose of Paracetamol and maximum dose of Ibuprofen my period cramps finally let up. Seriously, you will not believe how happy I was. Also, les feuilles mortes. I tried to put the pictures in the post but they didn't want to. They were taken a month ago, and if the weather is ok tomorrow I'll go and take some more pics, so you can see the difference. And yes, the blurriness is because of my shaky hands. Not even a digital camera can compensate for that, unfortunately.
And, the finale, todays advent fic can be found here. Doctor Who, Jack/10, pg-13-ish, strange planets!