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I found out yesterday while in conversation that my mom is planning on staying with Daniel and me. How she felt this could be left unmentioned is beyond me, and it's immensely lucky for her that it got brought up when it did, or else we would have been looking at some serious issues when she arrived.
Why is it that she assumes that she can just do and say as she pleases when it comes to me? She stomps on my feelings on a regular basis, lately mostly regarding my parenting ability, which I really am insecure about anyway (but then, it's always my biggest insecurities that she most targets). I just am so frustrated that she would assume that we were ready for her to stay with us... I had thought she had things planned out, because she hadn't asked about a place to stay or mentioned one, and Daniel and I have a small apartment, so rooming an extra person is a big deal to us!
We ordered an air mattress online yesterday because we don't have anywhere else to put her. I feel bad, making her sleep on an air mattress, but I don't have a real mattress anymore. I don't even have the futon any more. She's going to have to stay in the nursery, which is just great, and I'm just really frustrated about the whole thing.
Am I crazy to feel like this isn't cool? Should I have assumed she was staying with us? I know I should have asked her before this, and I feel stupid for not thinking it through, but I really genuinely thought that she had somehow managed to get a hotel room or something. After all, her plane tickets were free...
Gah, and she had been planning to bring William with her, originally?
I love my family, and it's not that I'm unwilling to put them up. I really am fine with giving them a room whenever I am able. But I just don't get why you would not mention at some point that you intended to stay in someone's house? I know that I made sure they had somewhere for Daniel and me before we flew out...
It's just that I know if it were Leo, even, she would have asked before she made plans. Or at least said, "Hey, I'm coming into town and I need a place to stay." ... Is it stupid that I didn't make sure she had somewhere? Yeah, it is. I guess I should be beating myself up just as much as anything...
I guess it's a lesson learned.
I'm so glad I asked her about her flights, though... yikes!