friends of the opposite sex
a good friend of mine from college (of the opposite sex) recently got married. i'm married as well. i have not heard much from said friend other than the "thank you" note for his wedding gift and maybe an online conversation or two.
things were not always this way with us.. we used to contact each other daily and know every aspect of the other person's life! i know that was college.. and now this is real life.. so in some ways i've been trying to shake off the idea that we'll have the same friendship.
but right now we have nothing. and as an added layer, i seem to have it in my head that it's not ok for me to really call him. i have called him. but when i call i'm always thinking "what will his wife think of me calling". his wife has never come out and said anything to me about calling so i can't really say where this fear is coming from other than my mother once telling me that men and women can't be friends. =P
how should this be handled? next time i talk with my friend, should i ask him point blank if his wife is ok with our communicating? i'm sure my husband is 100% ok with it.
things were not always this way with us.. we used to contact each other daily and know every aspect of the other person's life! i know that was college.. and now this is real life.. so in some ways i've been trying to shake off the idea that we'll have the same friendship.
but right now we have nothing. and as an added layer, i seem to have it in my head that it's not ok for me to really call him. i have called him. but when i call i'm always thinking "what will his wife think of me calling". his wife has never come out and said anything to me about calling so i can't really say where this fear is coming from other than my mother once telling me that men and women can't be friends. =P
how should this be handled? next time i talk with my friend, should i ask him point blank if his wife is ok with our communicating? i'm sure my husband is 100% ok with it.