First off, dating sucks. Regular Western dating sucks and frum dating sucks. Western dating involves a lot of dinners, going out, hanging out, living together and wondering what's going on and living in a limbo that doesn't mean anything until you're in a different age range. Shitty movies like He's Just Not That Into You get made. In my darkest
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No offense.
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In essence, dating sucks. And when you date, you only have a chance of finding someone that you can spend the rest of your life with if you do it with a modicum of honesty. And this kind of honesty isn't something that you can arrive at without effort. You might just have to go out with several people before you KNOW what you can stand and what you can't. You might have to go on a hundred more dates before you are good at expressing this person that you've become. And then you have to find someone else who is also honest. Or honest enough. There's always a mixture. You still have to put your best foot forward because first dates are advertising and job interviews more than dates.
It's a dating problem experienced in mainstream dating, too. There's a certain groupthink that tells us we must edit ourselves to be as blandly acceptable and generic to the largest number of people, it's not just Frumster ( ... )
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In frum dating, the "MARRY ME NOW" attitude gets in the way and it makes people even more dishonest than they normally would be.
Someone Ortho-Curious? I am trying to use that term.
I actually learned the hard way that someone that "might be willing to convert" is usually someone that just doesn't know what she's doing but isn't ruling anything out and the chance of that leading to a conversion is slim to none.
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