Advice about ongoing unpaid overtime and work stress
Hi, my friends! I'm up writing at 3:30 in the morning because I have a tension ball in my stomach and can't sleep. A wonderful situation at work turned on its head. Any advice regarding my mistakes and situation is very welcome. And listen, feel free to tell me what a jerk I've been, because I am not blameless in this mess I've made for myself. I'm
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Life can be cruel, can't it? :)
> might it be worth waiting for the dust to settle?
No problem. Even on the "fast track", it typically takes 3 or 4 months to land a new position. By then they will have built a parking lot over the original confrontation site and the dust will be locked in place with tarmac.
> Will there be a problem with a reference?
No. I have very many people in this company who love and appreciate my work. My boss is out, as I won't include him if I'm looking behind his back, but my project leader in Montreal has been strongly supportive and is my part-time boss in all but position. She'll be great. And there's any number of coworkers I can draw on.
> you could play the "what would you like me to do differently" card; makes them feel superior
Absolutely. I feel like a total idiot, so acting humble will not be a problem. The trick will be talking positively about these 2 women who've been making my life hell.
> I have to admit as a former boss, I would have come down very heavily on staff who had a slanging match
And you would be quite right to do so. I can't believe I was this stupid, and got sucked in. It was all that OT running me down, and the super-hostile attitude of these people on top of that was more than my exhausted resources could handle. I'm really going to do my best to turn this around, but I realize it's a fault in myself and it might take some work to correct it.
I so appreciate you jumping in and giving me all this good advice. I really feel well-supported, and much more objective about my behavior and theirs. I owe you a lot, my friend! Cheers.
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