Well, I just wouldn't mention that. The main thing is to get professional advice about what to do about your depression. If you feel in real danger of committing suicide in the immediate future, you really do need to get help and keeping it from your parents is just dangerous. I've considered it before, but the fact is is that it is selfish. It helps you, but hurts everyone around you, probably more than you can imagine. And there's no reason for it, because if you get help/learn to cope, your life doesn't have to be so bad! It's a lot of work, but it is so worth it. It's not as impossible as it seems by any means.
And if you are merely considering it and don't feel as if you are a danger to yourself (like you can't help yourself, you don't feel in control of it) then just don't mention that detail! Suicidal thoughts are a symptom of depression. If you can solve the depression, the thoughts will take care of themselves. You'll WANT to live. You'll have to things to live for. So on your first visit, I would would just say, "I'm feeling very depressed and I don't know how to deal with it. Life is overwhelming, too much to handle. I don't feel any motivation or have any sense of self-worth. I need help learning to manage this, learning strategies to cope." That's all it has to be. And a licensed professional can tell you where to find resources.
There's also suicide hotlines basically everywhere. If you're afraid of what you might do, call one! They have people on the other end that will talk you through it, reason with you, etc. and sometimes that's all you need. This community is another outlet, if you just need to connect/open up to someone.
If you aren't ready to talk to someone yet (which is fine--believe me, I understand!) and you feel safe (I know I keep stressing that, but I don't want you to do anything you'd regret just because you aren't ready to ask for help) then I would search some self-help books. There's nothing wrong with them and they're easy to hide from your parents/anybody else. You can probably find some just by searching websites (psychology ones and amazon) and if I get a chance, I'll see if I can find a few good ones. Some are cheesy, but others are good. Even the cheesy ones can be helpful if you can get past that. ;) Oh, also, if you have itunes (or you can download a free copy off apple's website) you can download free podcasts and there are some great depression ones, so you might look into that.
Why can't I help writing novels every time I reply to you lol? Hope this one helps though. This is a really messed up way to think of it, but realize that there are definitely more worthless people out there than you. Just the fact that you care that you might be worthless means that you're better than a lot of people. And I'm sure you're a great person. Just the fact that I've been able to help you has made you worthwhile to me! I mean, it's nice to know that I went through all this crap, but at least I could help someone out because of it!
And if you are merely considering it and don't feel as if you are a danger to yourself (like you can't help yourself, you don't feel in control of it) then just don't mention that detail! Suicidal thoughts are a symptom of depression. If you can solve the depression, the thoughts will take care of themselves. You'll WANT to live. You'll have to things to live for. So on your first visit, I would would just say, "I'm feeling very depressed and I don't know how to deal with it. Life is overwhelming, too much to handle. I don't feel any motivation or have any sense of self-worth. I need help learning to manage this, learning strategies to cope." That's all it has to be. And a licensed professional can tell you where to find resources.
There's also suicide hotlines basically everywhere. If you're afraid of what you might do, call one! They have people on the other end that will talk you through it, reason with you, etc. and sometimes that's all you need. This community is another outlet, if you just need to connect/open up to someone.
If you aren't ready to talk to someone yet (which is fine--believe me, I understand!) and you feel safe (I know I keep stressing that, but I don't want you to do anything you'd regret just because you aren't ready to ask for help) then I would search some self-help books. There's nothing wrong with them and they're easy to hide from your parents/anybody else. You can probably find some just by searching websites (psychology ones and amazon) and if I get a chance, I'll see if I can find a few good ones. Some are cheesy, but others are good. Even the cheesy ones can be helpful if you can get past that. ;) Oh, also, if you have itunes (or you can download a free copy off apple's website) you can download free podcasts and there are some great depression ones, so you might look into that.
Why can't I help writing novels every time I reply to you lol? Hope this one helps though. This is a really messed up way to think of it, but realize that there are definitely more worthless people out there than you. Just the fact that you care that you might be worthless means that you're better than a lot of people. And I'm sure you're a great person. Just the fact that I've been able to help you has made you worthwhile to me! I mean, it's nice to know that I went through all this crap, but at least I could help someone out because of it!
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but i wrote something really nice about how sweet you are and how im glad people like you exist
unfortunatley now that im frustrated it deleted i can't replicate what i wrote lol
but the point is, <3 thank you ill definatley check some of that stuff (podcasts, books) out lol im afraid of the cheesy ones!
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