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I swear if it's not one thing it's another.
My mother's carer has now decided he can't work for her any more, which is just great.
I mean I can understand why he's made the decision he has. Simple fact: he has some problems. Poor mental health - kids at home and the tax office is hassling him about money he owes them, that he clearly doesn't but try telling him that.
His advisor has said it's best he stops working until they figure this tax thing out because it's causing him to stress out and take too much medication. But at the same time it leaves my mother in the lurch and she's dependent on him and is now worried she isn't going to leave the house, ever.
Had her in tears on the phone and in person along with my brother calling me at work about this. Basically been talking the both of them down. My brother because he doesn't understand or appreciate how difficult depression is to handle or the problems it poses in spite of having had it himself in the past. And my mother because of obvious reasons, that along with the poor health she's experiencing at the moment and the fact the weather is depressing.
Let's face it, my mother's only real support system lies with myself and my brother. We can only do so much and I like to think I do as much as I can but if needs be I'll figure out a way to do more. Already said we can figure out the shopping call and advised her to call her social worker to start looking for a new PA.
She's hesitant, which I understand, but at the same time she needs the same freedom and independence she's had in recent months. I've also told her she needs a mentally strong and stable carer that will handle everything and she won't have to babysit like she has been doing for her current carer. End of the day my mother is the employer and he is the employee, she should not have to be talking him down from panic attacks late in the evening, especially when she's got enough to worry about.
Now I'm worried because I'd been relying upon the carer to handle things at home when I needed to work late night shifts. But I'll have to explain the situation to my boss and workplace and according to my mother's social worker I have the law on my side so it's not like they can keep me from doing what I need to. At the same time I'm trying to muddle my way through a new role and level of responsibility that I don't want to jeopardise any of that.
I have to go to Rugby next week to help Roshni induct new starters and that's going to keep me away from home till about 6 in the evening. It's not too bad but I'm thinking food and what needs to be done, probably could cook something before I leave.
And I have to make sure I've put support in place before September so I know for a fact my mother will be fine during the week that I am away.
ETA: Also? People need to quit telling me I shouldn't be as stable as I am. Seriously.
My mother's carer has now decided he can't work for her any more, which is just great.
I mean I can understand why he's made the decision he has. Simple fact: he has some problems. Poor mental health - kids at home and the tax office is hassling him about money he owes them, that he clearly doesn't but try telling him that.
His advisor has said it's best he stops working until they figure this tax thing out because it's causing him to stress out and take too much medication. But at the same time it leaves my mother in the lurch and she's dependent on him and is now worried she isn't going to leave the house, ever.
Had her in tears on the phone and in person along with my brother calling me at work about this. Basically been talking the both of them down. My brother because he doesn't understand or appreciate how difficult depression is to handle or the problems it poses in spite of having had it himself in the past. And my mother because of obvious reasons, that along with the poor health she's experiencing at the moment and the fact the weather is depressing.
Let's face it, my mother's only real support system lies with myself and my brother. We can only do so much and I like to think I do as much as I can but if needs be I'll figure out a way to do more. Already said we can figure out the shopping call and advised her to call her social worker to start looking for a new PA.
She's hesitant, which I understand, but at the same time she needs the same freedom and independence she's had in recent months. I've also told her she needs a mentally strong and stable carer that will handle everything and she won't have to babysit like she has been doing for her current carer. End of the day my mother is the employer and he is the employee, she should not have to be talking him down from panic attacks late in the evening, especially when she's got enough to worry about.
Now I'm worried because I'd been relying upon the carer to handle things at home when I needed to work late night shifts. But I'll have to explain the situation to my boss and workplace and according to my mother's social worker I have the law on my side so it's not like they can keep me from doing what I need to. At the same time I'm trying to muddle my way through a new role and level of responsibility that I don't want to jeopardise any of that.
I have to go to Rugby next week to help Roshni induct new starters and that's going to keep me away from home till about 6 in the evening. It's not too bad but I'm thinking food and what needs to be done, probably could cook something before I leave.
And I have to make sure I've put support in place before September so I know for a fact my mother will be fine during the week that I am away.
ETA: Also? People need to quit telling me I shouldn't be as stable as I am. Seriously.