Fairweathers / Personality Compatibility - A general letter
I am sick and tired of some things.
I am NOT a happy happy joy joy type of person the great majority of the time. I am generally content and mostly neutral. I am not nor have I ever been a perky individual and anyone who thinks that's who I am and how I act obviously do not know me very well. The only time in my memory during which I was down right perky I was under the influence of pain medication. During that period, my family was amazed by me. I was Little Miss Sunshine despite having 3 wisdom teeth removed (thus the need for the medications). I sang and danced the entirety of the Wizard of Oz. I was simply not myself. It was fun but it was not me.
I am naturally a sedate somewhat grumpy person. I am straightforward and blunt. I have little patience with other people unless they have earned my patience. As a rule, I actually really do not like people. I prefer them at arm's length. It may be more accurate to say that I do not like people being in my business or attempting to be closer to me than my relationship with them merits. (Translation: Back the fuck off until we know each other better.) I believe this to be an understandable and necessary attitude. This is, in part, because it helps to weed out those people who have clingy personalities and who may be interested in a much different relationship with me that I am with them.
For someone to be my friend, they must accept that I am fundamentally a sedate laid-back person. I can not and will not behave like a smiling monkey just to gain someone's approval. They must also accept that I do get angry, loud, and sometimes rant. I go off on tears about subjects that I care about. These are usually more amusing than anything else at least to those around me with a similar sense of humor. If someone cannot take being around me when I am peeved in a general sense, then I do not want that person around when I am in one of my rare 'happy happy joy joy' moods either.
I am and have always been Grumpy Bear.
If this is a problem, it is your problem, not mine.
Get over it or Go away.
I am NOT a happy happy joy joy type of person the great majority of the time. I am generally content and mostly neutral. I am not nor have I ever been a perky individual and anyone who thinks that's who I am and how I act obviously do not know me very well. The only time in my memory during which I was down right perky I was under the influence of pain medication. During that period, my family was amazed by me. I was Little Miss Sunshine despite having 3 wisdom teeth removed (thus the need for the medications). I sang and danced the entirety of the Wizard of Oz. I was simply not myself. It was fun but it was not me.
I am naturally a sedate somewhat grumpy person. I am straightforward and blunt. I have little patience with other people unless they have earned my patience. As a rule, I actually really do not like people. I prefer them at arm's length. It may be more accurate to say that I do not like people being in my business or attempting to be closer to me than my relationship with them merits. (Translation: Back the fuck off until we know each other better.) I believe this to be an understandable and necessary attitude. This is, in part, because it helps to weed out those people who have clingy personalities and who may be interested in a much different relationship with me that I am with them.
For someone to be my friend, they must accept that I am fundamentally a sedate laid-back person. I can not and will not behave like a smiling monkey just to gain someone's approval. They must also accept that I do get angry, loud, and sometimes rant. I go off on tears about subjects that I care about. These are usually more amusing than anything else at least to those around me with a similar sense of humor. If someone cannot take being around me when I am peeved in a general sense, then I do not want that person around when I am in one of my rare 'happy happy joy joy' moods either.
I am and have always been Grumpy Bear.
If this is a problem, it is your problem, not mine.
Get over it or Go away.