I also posted this on the facebook ^_^
Ok people, I have news that I'm ready to tell you now. Please, sit down. Are you seated? Are you comfortable? Good.
I'm pregnant.
Seriously, I'm not kidding. Eric and I are going to be parents in June. Now before you get all weird and start saying ANYTHING, let me address some things commonly brought up with me.
1. Yes, Eric and I were using protection, we're not stupid. Not everything works all the time. This was legitimately an accident.
2. Yes, I'm keeping it. Please don't comment on this, I just didn't want the other options, and I DID think about them. No judging me on this one, it's just what makes me the most comfortable. Don't think of it as my life ending, think of it as a life change.
3. I'm going to finish school. I'll be just fine, there is a lot of government aid for mothers and fathers out there (which, on a related note, will be good for Eric because he'll achieve independent status when all is said and done and finally get the aid he needs), and my father has not cut my education fund. It might take me longer, but it shouldn't be too bad.
4. I am leaving Jolly Pirate. I have some plans as far as work goes. Two years ago I was working on my Suzuki certification (the music school, not the motorcycles) and if I go back to that I can make a pretty decent living. Until then, it's temp work and office jobs. They pay better than donut shops and will give me more freedom since Jolly Pirate shifts don't make sense. Also, I can't imagine being happy on my feet much longer in my pregnancy.
5. I'm about nine or ten weeks. I've seen the doctor. I get my first ultrasound December 5th and I will show you the picture if you're really that desperate to see it, but considering it's the size of a grape right now, I really don't think you'll know what you're looking at.
6. You don't need to say "sorry" because I'm not upset anymore. My family, and Eric have all been very supportive, and I feel comfortable with the idea of being a mother. I'm a little scared, but I'm starting to feel excited.
7. Also, please don't say congratulations. I'm so sick of hearing that.
8. Eric is in the picture, he has made no moves to leave me. He's stuck through all of this, and he has been nothing but a wonderful, loving, and supportive boyfriend. Yes, I will make it so that no matter what, I can take care of myself, but he is in the picture, and please don't tell me that I need to be prepared if he leaves. I've always been able to take care of myself, now is no different. At that, I'm incredibly emotional right now, and the last thing I want out of ANY of you is to be told that Eric is going to bail. He isn't, give it a rest, I'm happy with him.
9. Remember that I am not a screw up. Accidents happen, and I'm twenty years old. Granted, it's a little young but I am not a teenage mother. I am at a relatively stable place in my life, Eric and I have plans in place, and while this was unexpected, it's not like it's going to destroy everything I worked for. Just because a person has an unexpected pregnancy, doesn't mean they're a fuckup, or an idiot. Please give me the benefit of the doubt.
10.I don't know at this time whether I'm coming back to Wright State or not, and I certainly don't know when I will be if I do. Eric and I will be staying with my father until we can afford not to (which is more common than you'd think these days and honestly, if I don't have to pay rent, why would I want to?) which means we'll be in Columbus for awhile. I have no idea if we'll decide to go back to Dayton or not, and I don't think he does either. We might not even stay in Columbus, it all depends on what we decide later, when the situation is different.
So that's all. Oh, and about four or five months from now I'll probably be having a baby shower and I demand presents, heaps and heaps of presents!
Anyway, I hope you all are alright, and I hope you were seated. I love you all dearly.
Courtney
Edit: Oh, I'd better mention that Eric and I got back together in late September. My bad... The situation had changed, and he made up for everything that had gone wrong. Nuff said.
I'm pregnant.
Seriously, I'm not kidding. Eric and I are going to be parents in June. Now before you get all weird and start saying ANYTHING, let me address some things commonly brought up with me.
1. Yes, Eric and I were using protection, we're not stupid. Not everything works all the time. This was legitimately an accident.
2. Yes, I'm keeping it. Please don't comment on this, I just didn't want the other options, and I DID think about them. No judging me on this one, it's just what makes me the most comfortable. Don't think of it as my life ending, think of it as a life change.
3. I'm going to finish school. I'll be just fine, there is a lot of government aid for mothers and fathers out there (which, on a related note, will be good for Eric because he'll achieve independent status when all is said and done and finally get the aid he needs), and my father has not cut my education fund. It might take me longer, but it shouldn't be too bad.
4. I am leaving Jolly Pirate. I have some plans as far as work goes. Two years ago I was working on my Suzuki certification (the music school, not the motorcycles) and if I go back to that I can make a pretty decent living. Until then, it's temp work and office jobs. They pay better than donut shops and will give me more freedom since Jolly Pirate shifts don't make sense. Also, I can't imagine being happy on my feet much longer in my pregnancy.
5. I'm about nine or ten weeks. I've seen the doctor. I get my first ultrasound December 5th and I will show you the picture if you're really that desperate to see it, but considering it's the size of a grape right now, I really don't think you'll know what you're looking at.
6. You don't need to say "sorry" because I'm not upset anymore. My family, and Eric have all been very supportive, and I feel comfortable with the idea of being a mother. I'm a little scared, but I'm starting to feel excited.
7. Also, please don't say congratulations. I'm so sick of hearing that.
8. Eric is in the picture, he has made no moves to leave me. He's stuck through all of this, and he has been nothing but a wonderful, loving, and supportive boyfriend. Yes, I will make it so that no matter what, I can take care of myself, but he is in the picture, and please don't tell me that I need to be prepared if he leaves. I've always been able to take care of myself, now is no different. At that, I'm incredibly emotional right now, and the last thing I want out of ANY of you is to be told that Eric is going to bail. He isn't, give it a rest, I'm happy with him.
9. Remember that I am not a screw up. Accidents happen, and I'm twenty years old. Granted, it's a little young but I am not a teenage mother. I am at a relatively stable place in my life, Eric and I have plans in place, and while this was unexpected, it's not like it's going to destroy everything I worked for. Just because a person has an unexpected pregnancy, doesn't mean they're a fuckup, or an idiot. Please give me the benefit of the doubt.
10.I don't know at this time whether I'm coming back to Wright State or not, and I certainly don't know when I will be if I do. Eric and I will be staying with my father until we can afford not to (which is more common than you'd think these days and honestly, if I don't have to pay rent, why would I want to?) which means we'll be in Columbus for awhile. I have no idea if we'll decide to go back to Dayton or not, and I don't think he does either. We might not even stay in Columbus, it all depends on what we decide later, when the situation is different.
So that's all. Oh, and about four or five months from now I'll probably be having a baby shower and I demand presents, heaps and heaps of presents!
Anyway, I hope you all are alright, and I hope you were seated. I love you all dearly.
Courtney
Edit: Oh, I'd better mention that Eric and I got back together in late September. My bad... The situation had changed, and he made up for everything that had gone wrong. Nuff said.