It would seem...
You ever had something about yourself come back time and time again, despite the fact you never wanted the designation nor worked towards it.
Apparently I'm the type of woman that some men think they would rather want when they already have a significant other. My weight and other physical attributes have nothing to do with it. It's based solely on the fact that they think I would be easier to live with than the sensitive, irrational women they chose to be with in the first place.
Let's identify the fallacies behind this belief, shall we?
1) The idea that these men are actually logical themselves.
Yeah. Most of the men who have said something to the effect "You would make some guy a great wife. If I weren't already..." to me have not been what I would consider impressively logical. I let most of it slide because I am actually a rather polite person, and when I don't let it slide, I'm pretty much relentless. So, in the name of tranquility, I bite my tongue a lot. But I have my limits, and it would take a hell of a lot of sweet talking and chocolate to get around them. You think that "irrational" sweetheart of your is hard to deal with? Oh, sugar, she's just a kitten compared to what I would do to your world views once you've pressed me beyond my bullshit tolerance.
2) The belief that I am always logical.
Yep, despite all attempts to be understanding and analytical, I can and will behave irrationally. What can I say? Being human sucks. Especially when you're really tired or in pain, which I frequently experience. Of course, logic can be a very subjective thing too. Be prepared for maps and flowcharts if you ask my reasons for something.
3) That I actually tolerate those annoying habits she can't stand.
Let's make something perfectly clear - I DON'T HAVE TO LIVE WITH YOU. Some people are like grandchildren. You find a lot of stuff entertaining because you can send them home when you're tired of it. Okay, maybe there are a few quirks I actually am more tolerant of, but most of the time I'm thinking, "Man, if I was married to you, I'd have to poison your lemonade for the sake of my own sanity." (Disclaimer - I don't really believe in killing people because of being annoying. I am far more resourceful in dealing with those situations than that.) A lot of times I don't say anything because I just can't think of an effective and tactful way of saying, "You know, that is really annoying. Stop it before I give into the urge to shank you."
4) You would actually be happy with someone like me.
You chose her for a reason, brother. If she and I are so very different, then chances are you chose her because she actually fulfills more of what turns you on than I do. Sure, we sometimes need a break to recharge, but we always go back to what we enjoy. So, do yourself and the rest of us a favor - get a hobby to destress, recharge your battery, and enjoy that exciting and unpredictable woman you're already with. You'll be more satisfied in the long run.
As for me, I'll just go on doing my own thing...
Apparently I'm the type of woman that some men think they would rather want when they already have a significant other. My weight and other physical attributes have nothing to do with it. It's based solely on the fact that they think I would be easier to live with than the sensitive, irrational women they chose to be with in the first place.
Let's identify the fallacies behind this belief, shall we?
1) The idea that these men are actually logical themselves.
Yeah. Most of the men who have said something to the effect "You would make some guy a great wife. If I weren't already..." to me have not been what I would consider impressively logical. I let most of it slide because I am actually a rather polite person, and when I don't let it slide, I'm pretty much relentless. So, in the name of tranquility, I bite my tongue a lot. But I have my limits, and it would take a hell of a lot of sweet talking and chocolate to get around them. You think that "irrational" sweetheart of your is hard to deal with? Oh, sugar, she's just a kitten compared to what I would do to your world views once you've pressed me beyond my bullshit tolerance.
2) The belief that I am always logical.
Yep, despite all attempts to be understanding and analytical, I can and will behave irrationally. What can I say? Being human sucks. Especially when you're really tired or in pain, which I frequently experience. Of course, logic can be a very subjective thing too. Be prepared for maps and flowcharts if you ask my reasons for something.
3) That I actually tolerate those annoying habits she can't stand.
Let's make something perfectly clear - I DON'T HAVE TO LIVE WITH YOU. Some people are like grandchildren. You find a lot of stuff entertaining because you can send them home when you're tired of it. Okay, maybe there are a few quirks I actually am more tolerant of, but most of the time I'm thinking, "Man, if I was married to you, I'd have to poison your lemonade for the sake of my own sanity." (Disclaimer - I don't really believe in killing people because of being annoying. I am far more resourceful in dealing with those situations than that.) A lot of times I don't say anything because I just can't think of an effective and tactful way of saying, "You know, that is really annoying. Stop it before I give into the urge to shank you."
4) You would actually be happy with someone like me.
You chose her for a reason, brother. If she and I are so very different, then chances are you chose her because she actually fulfills more of what turns you on than I do. Sure, we sometimes need a break to recharge, but we always go back to what we enjoy. So, do yourself and the rest of us a favor - get a hobby to destress, recharge your battery, and enjoy that exciting and unpredictable woman you're already with. You'll be more satisfied in the long run.
As for me, I'll just go on doing my own thing...