Hullo, hullo, hullo!
I'm seeing some lovely end-of-year posts from friends here on LJ, so I'm going to do the same... as well as resolve to come back and post here more often. G+ just hasn't caught on with the people I want to connect with, FB is too oriented towards small bites (taste great but less filling), and I really need to be able to sit down and produce longer
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2. Ear: ow. And i'm sorry.
3. I've known for years that I do better physically and mentally when I am regularly practicing yoga, meditation, Nia or some other regular exercise, and especially deep hot-water soaks. I am also in a bad place financially where I can't pay to do any of these things right now, and I really really suck at self-motivation for doing them here by myself at home (especially since I have no dedicated place to do them without being exposed to the chaos and curious eyes of other family members, unless I get up at a crazy early hour). Jeese, do i hear you here, on all channels.
4. He has had some issues that has made me think he might have a sensory processing difficulty, and I'm reading The Out-of-Sync Child in order to find out more about it. I hope to get to my post about William soon. This is something i've been exploring with him, too. Reviews on Amazon made me think a different book may be better, but i haven't read either yet. I have had some success implementing a few suggestions that i got around town, though, even though William would not currently be diagnosed with a disorder. (I have my ideas about that, too.)
Did Lincoln give you the message i told him to give you? (That he was a great house guest, and i hope he comes back soon. Josh and i both thought he'd grown up a lot since the last visit.) I also hope he likes the books William and chose for him...
Sorry about the sick. We are a plague bearing house, sadly.
5. The food we had in Thailand was really amazing.
6. I'll try if you try.
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Ear is actually showing signs of improvement, for the first time in weeks (all I had to do was publicly assert how sucky it was, and NOW it gets better? I shoulda done this ages ago!). Fingers crossed...
I was where you are now about 18 years ago (three littles) although not working outside the house... despite my current whining, I want to give you hope that IT DOES GET BETTER! Once everyone is out of diapers, you will see the world as shiny and new again! Hang in there... you WILL sleep again someday, I promise!
I got that sensory book from the library; if you hear of others that seem better to you, let me know (hard to believe there aren't any, this one seems pretty old and dated); but I think I'm getting some of the basics and that's helping. The fact that so many kids fall into this category seems to indicate it's just another way that kids are, not really a sign that anything is broken... but that our regular coping/teaching strategies and expectations need to be adjusted to fit them. This is the first kid I've had these issues with, at least to the point that I want to try to change things. What's funny is that another friend in Kansas City did a lot of work to have her kid diagnosed and treated for this, but when I did childcare for her, her kid and mine just did the same things and I thought they were totally normal kids, thought she was seeing problems where there weren't any. And now I know they were indeed doing similar things together, that they were meeting similar challenges with similar behaviors. I'm not convinced Linc needs any "treatment," but I do think that there are things we can do to help him get through his day more securely and comfortably. I might write more about this in another post...
Those books are great, and he's been enjoying them a lot. I didn't get the message, but we'll let it slide. Thank you so much again for opening your home up to my boys for a whole week, and I hope to see a lot more of your whole family in 2013!
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As far as i can tell, sensory processing disorder is a purely functional diagnosis. In other words, the diagnosis is made if a child needs a diagnosis because they can not function without some extra attention. Madeleine got the diagnosis for her eating issues when she was a baby, because it allowed us to visit an occupational therapist to look at what sort of problems she was having, BUT, i do not think she has big sensory issues in general.
William's probably are worse, but still not something that would lead to an obvious diagnosis with intervention. So i'm pretty comfortable with trying to find techniques that might help without actually trying to evaluation where he is on some sensory integration scale.
Some kids are obviously having a difficult enough time that time with an OT is very beneficial and its nice to have a diagnosis that can help them get that time/make sense of where they are.
I also recently read 'Raising your spirited child' and found it to be useful without actually thinking that my kids might qualify as 'spirited' by the book's definition. THAT book i really do want to review on Goodreads, and maybe in my lj. I am surprised how useful i found it to be. I think that the book i mentioned at the top here is probably my next parenting book.
I know that the challenges will change as my kids age. Marie is almost a year already, and i know from the first two that this is around the time i start really feeling more independence. Still have to figure out a way to be disciplined about taking care of myself without throwing money towards an external discipline (gym membership or class subscription).
Keep on keepin' on - i am glad you wrote this post.
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