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"Whether it is to say thank you or sorry, to share with another, to create a gift or card, to clean up a room to be appreciative, to do homework, or to practice piano; the more the behavior has been coerced, the less likely it is to occur voluntarily. And the less the behavior occurs spontaneously, the more inclined parents and teachers are to contrive some leverage. Thus begins a spiraling cycle of force and counterwill that necessitates the use of more and more leverage. The true power base for parenting is eroded.” (“Hold on to your kids” p 84)