Dear lady at the BX,
I know today by asking me why I would want to dye my hair green, reaching over to touch it, and then proceeding to tell me that "You would look so much prettier as a sandy blonde" you thought you were helping me, but you really hurt my feelings. It's perfectly ok to not like my hair (I didn't fancy yours either), but it's not ok to butter me up by cooing over my baby, then invade my personal space and insult me. And don't think I didn't notice you were making certain assumptions about me.
Perhaps you thought I was misguided and impulsive, too young and stupid to know what sort of look is right for me.On the contrary, I put lots of time and effort into studying color theory,the chemistry of hair dye,proper hair coloring technique, and good after care.
It could be you are quite insecure. It's difficult for me to think of why else you would choose to frame your opinion of me the way you did.Something about my hair must have really struck a chord with you or you wouldn't have been negative about it. Maybe you've been nervous about challenging societal norms your whole life, and chipping just a bit at my self image assuaged that fear. I certainly hope taking such a passive agressive jab at a harried, young mom of two helps you to sleep better tonight.
How about I make a deal with you? The next time we run into each other, why not try to build me up instead of tearing me down? Compliment me on how nice I look a mere three months after having a baby, or how brave I am to get out with both of them by myself in less than ideal weather. Commiserate with me about how challenging it is to raise good hearted, compassionate children in today's world(I saw your kids with you). Try to broaden your definition of beauty to include people and things that most people don't consider pretty. You will be much happier for it,and if you can't think of anything polite to say, or the sheer brightness of my hair renders you incapable of coherent thought, you can always fall back on "Wow, your hair is really green".
Sincerely, Charissa
Perhaps you thought I was misguided and impulsive, too young and stupid to know what sort of look is right for me.On the contrary, I put lots of time and effort into studying color theory,the chemistry of hair dye,proper hair coloring technique, and good after care.
It could be you are quite insecure. It's difficult for me to think of why else you would choose to frame your opinion of me the way you did.Something about my hair must have really struck a chord with you or you wouldn't have been negative about it. Maybe you've been nervous about challenging societal norms your whole life, and chipping just a bit at my self image assuaged that fear. I certainly hope taking such a passive agressive jab at a harried, young mom of two helps you to sleep better tonight.
How about I make a deal with you? The next time we run into each other, why not try to build me up instead of tearing me down? Compliment me on how nice I look a mere three months after having a baby, or how brave I am to get out with both of them by myself in less than ideal weather. Commiserate with me about how challenging it is to raise good hearted, compassionate children in today's world(I saw your kids with you). Try to broaden your definition of beauty to include people and things that most people don't consider pretty. You will be much happier for it,and if you can't think of anything polite to say, or the sheer brightness of my hair renders you incapable of coherent thought, you can always fall back on "Wow, your hair is really green".
Sincerely, Charissa