I am a very lucky woman
I am.
I had a long phone conversation last night with my ex. (T, if you're reading this, well, continue at your own risk, because it'll probably embarrass the hell out of you. *grin* Don't worry; nobody reading this has any clue who you are.) We talked a long time and laughed a lot and shared some troubles and laughed a lot more.
I am so very lucky. I married a man who'd been my close and dear friend for half a dozen years, the greatest guy you could ever want to know. Turned out we were better at being friends than we were at being married, and we went through some painful and difficult times (to say the least) before it finally became clear that we weren't going to be able to make it work. But we managed to come out the other side of it with the bitterness behind us and the friendship still intact, if not in some ways stronger than ever. There's no telling where our separate lives will lead us, but he'll always be in my heart, and, if I'm lucky, at least in some small corner of my life.
On other fronts, I've finally found a title for the Stargate SG-1 Jack/Daniel slash fic I've been writing. Titles are really important to me; I put a lot of thought into them. It'd really been bothering me that I had almost 13K words of this fic written and still not even a glimmer of an idea for a title.
Then yesterday I followed somebody's link, I don't know whose (many thanks, if it was someone on my flist) to this essay "BtVS Crit: Audience Theory and Fanfic" about slash fanfiction where I found a reference to "...Aristotle's theory that 'erotic love tends to be an excess of friendship'...".
Google turned up the complete quote:
"It is good not to seek as many friends as possible, and good to have no more than enough for living together; indeed it even seems impossible to be an extremely close friend to many people. For the same reason it also seems impossible to be passionately in love with many people, since passionate erotic love tends to be an excess of friendship, and one has this for one person; hence also one has extremely close friendship for a few people." - Aristotle
And there's my title: "An Excess of Friendship".
That's exactly how I see the slash relationship developing between these two characters, that they have so many years of such deep and caring friendship that the love just grows so big that it finally overflows into romantic and erotic passion.
Which, in turn, brings me full circle to the man who was my friend and through "an excess of friendship" for a while became my husband and is now my friend again. Love you, T.
I had a long phone conversation last night with my ex. (T, if you're reading this, well, continue at your own risk, because it'll probably embarrass the hell out of you. *grin* Don't worry; nobody reading this has any clue who you are.) We talked a long time and laughed a lot and shared some troubles and laughed a lot more.
I am so very lucky. I married a man who'd been my close and dear friend for half a dozen years, the greatest guy you could ever want to know. Turned out we were better at being friends than we were at being married, and we went through some painful and difficult times (to say the least) before it finally became clear that we weren't going to be able to make it work. But we managed to come out the other side of it with the bitterness behind us and the friendship still intact, if not in some ways stronger than ever. There's no telling where our separate lives will lead us, but he'll always be in my heart, and, if I'm lucky, at least in some small corner of my life.
On other fronts, I've finally found a title for the Stargate SG-1 Jack/Daniel slash fic I've been writing. Titles are really important to me; I put a lot of thought into them. It'd really been bothering me that I had almost 13K words of this fic written and still not even a glimmer of an idea for a title.
Then yesterday I followed somebody's link, I don't know whose (many thanks, if it was someone on my flist) to this essay "BtVS Crit: Audience Theory and Fanfic" about slash fanfiction where I found a reference to "...Aristotle's theory that 'erotic love tends to be an excess of friendship'...".
Google turned up the complete quote:
"It is good not to seek as many friends as possible, and good to have no more than enough for living together; indeed it even seems impossible to be an extremely close friend to many people. For the same reason it also seems impossible to be passionately in love with many people, since passionate erotic love tends to be an excess of friendship, and one has this for one person; hence also one has extremely close friendship for a few people." - Aristotle
And there's my title: "An Excess of Friendship".
That's exactly how I see the slash relationship developing between these two characters, that they have so many years of such deep and caring friendship that the love just grows so big that it finally overflows into romantic and erotic passion.
Which, in turn, brings me full circle to the man who was my friend and through "an excess of friendship" for a while became my husband and is now my friend again. Love you, T.