I dealt with....difficult people in online fandom and it took me a long time to realize that it is ultimately them with the problem. If you think I am being wishy washy, I am being quite serious when I say that I dealt with stalking, disgusting PMs, harassment, and worst of all, finding no help. With the grace of good people and some of them wising up, I was able to get out of that hellhole. The wounds are not as strong. I look back at the events with both humor and with shaking my head. Ultimately, the bullies are the ones with the problem. The ugly words are only manifestations of what they lack in their own personal lives.
You are valuable. The fact that you can analyze your weaknesses says a lot about you and that's a good thing. :)
Thank you reading and commenting. I would never think that you are wishy washy. I fully believe that bullying can leave scars on a person that are deeper than physical. Words can really wound a person deeply. It's the words that I always hear when I close my eyes. I fully believe that your problems must have changed your world and left their mark on you. The things people do online can hurt, and often there's no sense of being able to stop them. I think that cyberbullies are the worst sort of coward because they hide behind computers and never deal with how badly they hurt people. I'm so glad that you were able find a way out of that darkness. I like to believe that we can use the fact that we've survived our own personal hells as a source of strength to enable us to help other people out of theirs
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Thank you for saying so. I have a wonderful husband who reminds me anytime he hears me doing it, that the awful things aren't true. He tells good things about myself over and over, reminding me that I deserve to be nicer to myself. He's a truly great guy and source of strength for me. I'm really lucky to have him.
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I dealt with....difficult people in online fandom and it took me a long time to realize that it is ultimately them with the problem. If you think I am being wishy washy, I am being quite serious when I say that I dealt with stalking, disgusting PMs, harassment, and worst of all, finding no help. With the grace of good people and some of them wising up, I was able to get out of that hellhole. The wounds are not as strong. I look back at the events with both humor and with shaking my head. Ultimately, the bullies are the ones with the problem. The ugly words are only manifestations of what they lack in their own personal lives.
You are valuable. The fact that you can analyze your weaknesses says a lot about you and that's a good thing. :)
(PS, love that avatar!)
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