I'm Going to Kill Everyone in Big Rapids
"My theory is that what underlies this "blame the victim" mentality is the same thing that explains why fundies think that anyone who does not share their belief in bible god has no morality and might be apt to commit all sorts of mayhem and also why they assume that everyone has to worship something like they do (such that, for example, they see “Darwinism” as a religion).
Simply put, most fundies have no sense of empathy. Though they’d deny it, they are totally self-absorbed. Their “devotion” to god isn’t really directed outward but instead is fixated inward on the god meme within their own minds. When they proclaim that they have a “relationship” with jesus, what they really mean is that they are infatuated with a figment of their imagination which they continually reinforce through prayer and other fundy-accepted forms of self-hypnosis.
Most fundies can't put themselves in the place of another person, so they can’t understand or sympathize with a crime victim’s suffering. If they practice the Golden Rule, it’s only because the fear of hell or hope of a heavenly award motivates them to do so - not because they really understand or care how another person might feel if they commit some bad act against that person.
A lack of empathy is also a trait of habitual criminal offenders. If we could figure out how to instill empathy in all people from the time of their very early childhood, we’d have fewer criminals and fewer fundies."
Source: http://www.fstdt.com/comments.asp?id=22704
She's wise, isn't she?
In other words, I had to stay at work until almost 9:30 even though we weren't busy because my dickhead manager wouldn't let me go, I missed a chance to talk to a friend of mine who's only here for a day because she lives in an alternate dimension called "Law School," my boyfriend acts like I'm an inconvenience to him and like he doesn't want me around (and has for over four months now) and I think he was on the rebound from his last relationship when he met me, and now that some time has passed and he's realized he didn't lose his friends when his wife left him, he no longer has need of me. I'm tired and hot and sick and crabby and sad and honestly, I really don't want advice right now so if anyone who comments could just be empathetic that'd be super.
Sigh.