Help me out!
Ok, so Stacey and I had a fight at the begining of this week, and I still have no freakin' clue why shes upset! Maybe someone can help me out in trying to figure out where I went wrong in this situation so that I can have a better understanding of why she got so pissed! I mean, I got so fed up with it, I hung up on her! I just couldn't take it anymore! So much fucking anger and stress! It was like talking to a brick wall, none of my points got accross to her AT ALL. It was as if nothing I said was going to help her better understand where I was coming from!
The night we got into a fight, it was about how much my Halloween costume cost........ yeah, I know what you're thinking. You see, the thursday before Halloween she bought me about $30 worth of food because I don't have anything to eat here at my house. I never have anything to eat here, EVER, and she knew this! So she bought me food because I had spent all my money on car insurance, registration, tags, etc... I mean, I had NO MONEY! I couldn't get anything to eat until next payday. I NEVER ASKED HER FOR THIS FOOD!!! She surprised me one night by going to a grocery store and saying "You're going shopping", which was really cool. And I thanked her for it! I mean, if it wasn't for her I wouldn't be eating RIGHT NOW! I'd probably be eating at Joe's or having nothing at all. Friday I got paid, and on Saturday I talked to her and told her about my costume that I had JUST bought with the paycheck I got which was about $443. The entire costume costed me about $50. I told her about how much it costed and she was a little surprised, and jokeingly brought up the $30 she spent on me for food, and again, food I didn't ask for but was bought to help me in need. I eat very little.
Now, to get a better understanding of why I don't have food in the house, it's because my mom doesn't cook much. Maybe once a week IF THAT! The food that I do buy, I buy out of vending machines at Lowe's on my break, or a sandwhich at Wawa. But when I come back home, I have nothing. So what Stacey did, actually helped out a lot. Now I don't go out and buy food for myself because I'm content with the food that I do get and I don't have time to go out and buy groceries for myself. To me, I don't need anything else. The food that Stacey bought me was for times I really needed food.
Anyway, Halloween came and I had a fucking blast at Shampoo. The next day, I told everyone about it. I called Stacey to see how she was doing and I told her about my Halloween. That's when she gets pissed! She said that she was upset with me because I spent $50 on a Hallween costume after she spent $30 on food for me. Now I assumed that she was pissed that I spent $50 on a costume and not on food for myself. But I don't go out and buy food for myself. It's not something I have room, or time for. And its certainly not something I'm used to doing. AND, it's not like I don't have the money for BOTH. Even after buying the $50 costume I still have PLENTY OF MONEY for food for myself. If she wanted me to go out and buy food for myself with some of my money, that's all she had to say! But no, she felt it was better to yell and scream at me for it! Now first off, it's not like I wasn't ever going to get paid again!!! I mean, it was going to happen sooner or later!!!!! It's not like she didn't know I was going to get paid that day either because I told her and everyone that I was going to get my costume around payday because I didn't have a costume for Halloween earlier than that. Second, am I not allowed to spend my own money anymore now!?!? Was I suppose to go to Shampoo that I planned on going to a month in advanced without a costume?!?!?! "Sorry guys, I don't have a costume. Stacey bought me food the other day so I thought it would be best that I didn't get a costume, even though I have almost $450 in my bank account now". MAKES NO FUCKING SENSE TO ME!!! Was I suppose to have a shitty Halloween, stay home and do NOTHING! FUCK THAT! I planned this thing in late September! I got paid, I had money, and if I didn't go then Blake wouldn't of had a ride and Chris wouldn't have gone! It's a little weird that she got pissed about the costume AFTER I told her about how much fun I had. She wasn't pissed when I told her about how much I spent the day of the purchase of my costume, but after the night of Halloween. I DIDN'T GET THAT!!! She started to make NO SENSE AT ALL!!! I guess she felt like what she did didn't help, or that she didn't need to do it because I got paid. The thing is, is that even when I get paid, I don't have food in the house nor would I of ever had food in the house even after I got paid because I don't have time and I really don't do that for myself. What she did actually helped! She doesn't see it!!! AND I DON'T KNOW WHY THE FUCK NOT!!! She started yelling and screaming, which pisses me off beyond belief!!! It was totally uncalled for. I don't know what the fuck I did wrong!!!
Break down of the Fight:
- I plan on going to Shampoo for Halloween, I tell everyone.
- I have no money because I paid over $300 worth in car insurance, etc..
- I have no money for a costume until the weekend of Halloween
- Stacey buys me food because I never have any in the house already knowing that I get paid the next day because she knew I was going to Shampoo and that I needed to buy a costume.
- I get paid $443 that Friday and buy a costume JUST LIKE I SAID I WAS for Shampoo that I've planned on going to since late sept.
- I tell her how much it costs, NOT A PROBLEM THERE.
- Shampoo Halloween night, best Halloween ever!
- Tell Stacey all about it the next day, THEN SHES PISSED!
- Shes pissed because I spent $50 on a costume for one night when I had plenty of money left to do what I want with.
Questions that went through my head:
- Was I not suppose to go to Shampoo even after getting paid to buy a costume?
- Was I suppose to cancel EVERYTHING even if it meant that it ruined other peoples plans too?
- Was I not allowed to spend money on ANYTHING for myself because she bought me food!?
- Did she think I was NEVER going to get paid EVER again!?!?
- WHERE AM I IN THE WRONG!?!?
- WHY THE HELL DOES SHE HAVE TO YELL AND SCREAM SO MUCH?!?!?!
Now please, friends, help me out! What the hell did I do wrong!? She knew I was getting paid, she knew I needed a costume, she knew I was going to shampoo with one, but I'm the asshole!?!? If you could think of any reason of why she'd be so fucking pissed where she has to raise her voice to me after all of that, please let me know. Because I have no fucking clue as to why she would be pissed. Every reason she gave me MADE NO FUCKING SENSE to be mad at me for! After the costume and Halloween night, I still have over $370. Stacey's my friend and all, but I just don't get her sometimes...
The night we got into a fight, it was about how much my Halloween costume cost........ yeah, I know what you're thinking. You see, the thursday before Halloween she bought me about $30 worth of food because I don't have anything to eat here at my house. I never have anything to eat here, EVER, and she knew this! So she bought me food because I had spent all my money on car insurance, registration, tags, etc... I mean, I had NO MONEY! I couldn't get anything to eat until next payday. I NEVER ASKED HER FOR THIS FOOD!!! She surprised me one night by going to a grocery store and saying "You're going shopping", which was really cool. And I thanked her for it! I mean, if it wasn't for her I wouldn't be eating RIGHT NOW! I'd probably be eating at Joe's or having nothing at all. Friday I got paid, and on Saturday I talked to her and told her about my costume that I had JUST bought with the paycheck I got which was about $443. The entire costume costed me about $50. I told her about how much it costed and she was a little surprised, and jokeingly brought up the $30 she spent on me for food, and again, food I didn't ask for but was bought to help me in need. I eat very little.
Now, to get a better understanding of why I don't have food in the house, it's because my mom doesn't cook much. Maybe once a week IF THAT! The food that I do buy, I buy out of vending machines at Lowe's on my break, or a sandwhich at Wawa. But when I come back home, I have nothing. So what Stacey did, actually helped out a lot. Now I don't go out and buy food for myself because I'm content with the food that I do get and I don't have time to go out and buy groceries for myself. To me, I don't need anything else. The food that Stacey bought me was for times I really needed food.
Anyway, Halloween came and I had a fucking blast at Shampoo. The next day, I told everyone about it. I called Stacey to see how she was doing and I told her about my Halloween. That's when she gets pissed! She said that she was upset with me because I spent $50 on a Hallween costume after she spent $30 on food for me. Now I assumed that she was pissed that I spent $50 on a costume and not on food for myself. But I don't go out and buy food for myself. It's not something I have room, or time for. And its certainly not something I'm used to doing. AND, it's not like I don't have the money for BOTH. Even after buying the $50 costume I still have PLENTY OF MONEY for food for myself. If she wanted me to go out and buy food for myself with some of my money, that's all she had to say! But no, she felt it was better to yell and scream at me for it! Now first off, it's not like I wasn't ever going to get paid again!!! I mean, it was going to happen sooner or later!!!!! It's not like she didn't know I was going to get paid that day either because I told her and everyone that I was going to get my costume around payday because I didn't have a costume for Halloween earlier than that. Second, am I not allowed to spend my own money anymore now!?!? Was I suppose to go to Shampoo that I planned on going to a month in advanced without a costume?!?!?! "Sorry guys, I don't have a costume. Stacey bought me food the other day so I thought it would be best that I didn't get a costume, even though I have almost $450 in my bank account now". MAKES NO FUCKING SENSE TO ME!!! Was I suppose to have a shitty Halloween, stay home and do NOTHING! FUCK THAT! I planned this thing in late September! I got paid, I had money, and if I didn't go then Blake wouldn't of had a ride and Chris wouldn't have gone! It's a little weird that she got pissed about the costume AFTER I told her about how much fun I had. She wasn't pissed when I told her about how much I spent the day of the purchase of my costume, but after the night of Halloween. I DIDN'T GET THAT!!! She started to make NO SENSE AT ALL!!! I guess she felt like what she did didn't help, or that she didn't need to do it because I got paid. The thing is, is that even when I get paid, I don't have food in the house nor would I of ever had food in the house even after I got paid because I don't have time and I really don't do that for myself. What she did actually helped! She doesn't see it!!! AND I DON'T KNOW WHY THE FUCK NOT!!! She started yelling and screaming, which pisses me off beyond belief!!! It was totally uncalled for. I don't know what the fuck I did wrong!!!
Break down of the Fight:
- I plan on going to Shampoo for Halloween, I tell everyone.
- I have no money because I paid over $300 worth in car insurance, etc..
- I have no money for a costume until the weekend of Halloween
- Stacey buys me food because I never have any in the house already knowing that I get paid the next day because she knew I was going to Shampoo and that I needed to buy a costume.
- I get paid $443 that Friday and buy a costume JUST LIKE I SAID I WAS for Shampoo that I've planned on going to since late sept.
- I tell her how much it costs, NOT A PROBLEM THERE.
- Shampoo Halloween night, best Halloween ever!
- Tell Stacey all about it the next day, THEN SHES PISSED!
- Shes pissed because I spent $50 on a costume for one night when I had plenty of money left to do what I want with.
Questions that went through my head:
- Was I not suppose to go to Shampoo even after getting paid to buy a costume?
- Was I suppose to cancel EVERYTHING even if it meant that it ruined other peoples plans too?
- Was I not allowed to spend money on ANYTHING for myself because she bought me food!?
- Did she think I was NEVER going to get paid EVER again!?!?
- WHERE AM I IN THE WRONG!?!?
- WHY THE HELL DOES SHE HAVE TO YELL AND SCREAM SO MUCH?!?!?!
Now please, friends, help me out! What the hell did I do wrong!? She knew I was getting paid, she knew I needed a costume, she knew I was going to shampoo with one, but I'm the asshole!?!? If you could think of any reason of why she'd be so fucking pissed where she has to raise her voice to me after all of that, please let me know. Because I have no fucking clue as to why she would be pissed. Every reason she gave me MADE NO FUCKING SENSE to be mad at me for! After the costume and Halloween night, I still have over $370. Stacey's my friend and all, but I just don't get her sometimes...