Grief and Grieving
“I ain’t afraid to die anymore. I’d done it already.” Hugh Glass, “The Revenant”
Today is Grief Awareness Day.
What is grief?
Grief is defined as deep sorrow, especially that caused by someone’s death.
Then you think about what is death?
the action or fact of dying or being killed; the end of the life of a person or organism
In Tarot card meaning it can be change.
And that’s why Grieving can be in two forms at least for me ;
The loss of someone or the change of someone who once was.
In hindsight, I believe all change and become someone in increments in time.
Much like the 7 year itch. But in reality we only think of grief when we have truly lost someone.
Returning to the idea of death or change.
My personal journey into grief is probably no different than anyone else but do really ponder about it? Probably me more than you or maybe not?
I think when anyone in our lives who we are close to passes away it affects us.
Being an only child, my closest friends growing up were like siblings to me. I have lost friends due to accidents, suicides and natural causes. And each one always hits me differently in
The way they affected my life personally. I find myself numb. I have no thoughts or reasonings on how I feel. I am not always sure how I feel honestly. Sometimes it can take me a while to
Put my feelings into words or in other cases, music. I sometimes step away and look at myself
Objectively and thinking about how we get here, to give some justification over why this event happened.
But then what if its not due to the passing of someone, but a loved one who has their own chronically ill issues and due to the mental and physical pain it changes who they are from
What they were.
Who they were.
Whom they become.
I talk a lot about metamorphosis and how we are ever changing but when your loved one changes over the consequences of a mental or physical change in time you grieve the loss of that person. And in turn that changes you. And you got through the 5 stages of grieving in the same way.
Denial and Isolation
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance
Sometimes grieving doesn’t happen in these stages they can happen in whatever way they tend to travel with your situation.
The first time I truly grieved was after my dad’s massive stroke 26 years. It devastated me and I found myself lost with all the changes that was and we’re going to happen. Besides the family dynamic but my personal going from my goals to taking care of him. Redirecting my focus on life. I don’t think I ever found acceptance even 26 years later because I reflect from when, where, what and why life gives you but I definitely went through all the stages. Yet when my mom passed away I definitely grieved hard.
And through it all …
I cried and I ranted and bargained and I was very depressed. Everything bothered me and triggered a response. I was like a heavy cloud of sadness. I felt like Joe Btfsplk.
When my dad passed I went through a different kind of grieving because it was a different loss of just him after all the years of caregiving for him at the baseline where we came from.
I grieve for Eric, he’s not the same person I met and it's been a fluctuating with the ups and down in the past 4 years and we had some good and bad moments but it’s relative to how he has progressively worsened over the years and how it’s affected his mentality and physicality. Where the dynamics of our partnership has changed.
But climbing a hill and challenging yourself and not giving up is part of life.
I’ve been doing it for so long it’s the most natural process for me.
I get what my mom meant when she reached the same age as when her mom passed away. I’m sure as I get older I will think more about that.
I will always be grieving because changes affect me more as I get older. But as I age I realize I change as who I am and how I learn from all of this.
Grieving isn’t sinple. It’s a form of life we embrace and it’s okay if you grieve.
There’s no shame.
There’s no wrong in it.
As Shrylock said
““If you prick us, do we not bleed?”
Yes, that’s because we are Human.
#grief #griefsupport #griefjourney #griefandloss #griefawarenessday #griefawareness #caregiving #metamorphosis
Today is Grief Awareness Day.
What is grief?
Grief is defined as deep sorrow, especially that caused by someone’s death.
Then you think about what is death?
the action or fact of dying or being killed; the end of the life of a person or organism
In Tarot card meaning it can be change.
And that’s why Grieving can be in two forms at least for me ;
The loss of someone or the change of someone who once was.
In hindsight, I believe all change and become someone in increments in time.
Much like the 7 year itch. But in reality we only think of grief when we have truly lost someone.
Returning to the idea of death or change.
My personal journey into grief is probably no different than anyone else but do really ponder about it? Probably me more than you or maybe not?
I think when anyone in our lives who we are close to passes away it affects us.
Being an only child, my closest friends growing up were like siblings to me. I have lost friends due to accidents, suicides and natural causes. And each one always hits me differently in
The way they affected my life personally. I find myself numb. I have no thoughts or reasonings on how I feel. I am not always sure how I feel honestly. Sometimes it can take me a while to
Put my feelings into words or in other cases, music. I sometimes step away and look at myself
Objectively and thinking about how we get here, to give some justification over why this event happened.
But then what if its not due to the passing of someone, but a loved one who has their own chronically ill issues and due to the mental and physical pain it changes who they are from
What they were.
Who they were.
Whom they become.
I talk a lot about metamorphosis and how we are ever changing but when your loved one changes over the consequences of a mental or physical change in time you grieve the loss of that person. And in turn that changes you. And you got through the 5 stages of grieving in the same way.
Denial and Isolation
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance
Sometimes grieving doesn’t happen in these stages they can happen in whatever way they tend to travel with your situation.
The first time I truly grieved was after my dad’s massive stroke 26 years. It devastated me and I found myself lost with all the changes that was and we’re going to happen. Besides the family dynamic but my personal going from my goals to taking care of him. Redirecting my focus on life. I don’t think I ever found acceptance even 26 years later because I reflect from when, where, what and why life gives you but I definitely went through all the stages. Yet when my mom passed away I definitely grieved hard.
And through it all …
I cried and I ranted and bargained and I was very depressed. Everything bothered me and triggered a response. I was like a heavy cloud of sadness. I felt like Joe Btfsplk.
When my dad passed I went through a different kind of grieving because it was a different loss of just him after all the years of caregiving for him at the baseline where we came from.
I grieve for Eric, he’s not the same person I met and it's been a fluctuating with the ups and down in the past 4 years and we had some good and bad moments but it’s relative to how he has progressively worsened over the years and how it’s affected his mentality and physicality. Where the dynamics of our partnership has changed.
But climbing a hill and challenging yourself and not giving up is part of life.
I’ve been doing it for so long it’s the most natural process for me.
I get what my mom meant when she reached the same age as when her mom passed away. I’m sure as I get older I will think more about that.
I will always be grieving because changes affect me more as I get older. But as I age I realize I change as who I am and how I learn from all of this.
Grieving isn’t sinple. It’s a form of life we embrace and it’s okay if you grieve.
There’s no shame.
There’s no wrong in it.
As Shrylock said
““If you prick us, do we not bleed?”
Yes, that’s because we are Human.
#grief #griefsupport #griefjourney #griefandloss #griefawarenessday #griefawareness #caregiving #metamorphosis
