Giving Birth
A List of Reasons not to have a child:
* You're on welfare, or just got off of welfare sometime this year
* You and your spouse do not have stable or full time jobs (depending on spouse's job, you may not need one)
* You don't have a spouse
* You're on a various assortment of pills, ranging from antidepressants to some weight loss pills
* You're not emotionally stable (and if you require pills to be stable, reevaluation is needed before a child is made)
* You're not romantically stable (this is usually determined by how long you last with most significant others and whether or not you're married. If you average 1-2 years before getting bored with your current heart throb, you should not have a child.)
* You're not physically healthy (Pills?)
* You're not financially stable (Full time job, no welfare. If you're on welfare, you might as move to some poor area and have half a dozen kids so social services can take them all to foster homes that can actually care for the child)
Are you considering a child? If so, I beg you to ponder this list and ponder your decision. I'm one of three people that I know (I know a lot of people...) that have parents that have actually been together since they were 18 or so and haven't split up. I'm also one of few people I know that have a stable, fairly functional family. I didn't have to go visit my father on tuesday's, nor did I live a life where I didn't know who my real father was. My parents never asked me to go get their drugs for them and my father worked intense amounts of overtime to keep food on the table. We always had a decent sized living space with enough room for everyone and we always had clothes on our back. My parents were intelligent and emotionally smart people, they knew when not too fight around their kids, and they knew how to raise their kids. They knew how to discipline us and they knew to accept our dream careers, even if music, movie making, and game making aren't traditional.
It saddens me when I consider my friends and how few have had that. It also saddens me that, yes, I've known someone who lived with her parents for her entire life and discovered her father wasn't her real father. I've known more than four people that had to do the "every tuesday, every other weekend" to visit their father, or mother. I've known kids that worked more then their parents did. And made more money, off two or more part time jobs.
So, for the love of God people, don't be selfish. Don't think about the reasons why you WANT a kid. Those reasons don't matter. Really. Think about if the kid will be happy in your life; can you give them shelter, food, an education, emotional support, a stable family life? Can you? If you can't, I beg you reconsider the decision. You do not have children because you want to have children to make yourself happy. You have children to watch and help them grow and to sacrifice a great deal of your life for their well being as they mature and age. Today's world can be rough enough as it is, don't bring the kid into a crappy family life.
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This post has been sparked by a friend. She seems to be trying to have a child. I told her my opinion. As always, I gave her the honest truth - she needs to reconsider. I'm no longer on any of her friend's lists because, another frequent occurance, my honesty was too much.
* You're on welfare, or just got off of welfare sometime this year
* You and your spouse do not have stable or full time jobs (depending on spouse's job, you may not need one)
* You don't have a spouse
* You're on a various assortment of pills, ranging from antidepressants to some weight loss pills
* You're not emotionally stable (and if you require pills to be stable, reevaluation is needed before a child is made)
* You're not romantically stable (this is usually determined by how long you last with most significant others and whether or not you're married. If you average 1-2 years before getting bored with your current heart throb, you should not have a child.)
* You're not physically healthy (Pills?)
* You're not financially stable (Full time job, no welfare. If you're on welfare, you might as move to some poor area and have half a dozen kids so social services can take them all to foster homes that can actually care for the child)
Are you considering a child? If so, I beg you to ponder this list and ponder your decision. I'm one of three people that I know (I know a lot of people...) that have parents that have actually been together since they were 18 or so and haven't split up. I'm also one of few people I know that have a stable, fairly functional family. I didn't have to go visit my father on tuesday's, nor did I live a life where I didn't know who my real father was. My parents never asked me to go get their drugs for them and my father worked intense amounts of overtime to keep food on the table. We always had a decent sized living space with enough room for everyone and we always had clothes on our back. My parents were intelligent and emotionally smart people, they knew when not too fight around their kids, and they knew how to raise their kids. They knew how to discipline us and they knew to accept our dream careers, even if music, movie making, and game making aren't traditional.
It saddens me when I consider my friends and how few have had that. It also saddens me that, yes, I've known someone who lived with her parents for her entire life and discovered her father wasn't her real father. I've known more than four people that had to do the "every tuesday, every other weekend" to visit their father, or mother. I've known kids that worked more then their parents did. And made more money, off two or more part time jobs.
So, for the love of God people, don't be selfish. Don't think about the reasons why you WANT a kid. Those reasons don't matter. Really. Think about if the kid will be happy in your life; can you give them shelter, food, an education, emotional support, a stable family life? Can you? If you can't, I beg you reconsider the decision. You do not have children because you want to have children to make yourself happy. You have children to watch and help them grow and to sacrifice a great deal of your life for their well being as they mature and age. Today's world can be rough enough as it is, don't bring the kid into a crappy family life.
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This post has been sparked by a friend. She seems to be trying to have a child. I told her my opinion. As always, I gave her the honest truth - she needs to reconsider. I'm no longer on any of her friend's lists because, another frequent occurance, my honesty was too much.