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i had a very good read just now.. some online article.. n the thing that struck me the most was the fact that society keeps playing the fact that we all need to be in relationships.. but not everyone really wants one that badly.. like ME! hahaha..
in fact, i've always had a negative view of relationships. don't get me wrong to all those who are in one right now.. i m not saying i don't want one. and that relationships are bad.. i'm just saying that my personality is such that i m more inclined not to want to be in a relationship. but everyone has different personalities.
and it is a good discovery because recently, i've been looking at guys in a way where i would go, well, he has a potential to be the one (just like Mr. Turkish in my last friends only post :p). And all this is due to the societal pressures in denoting that a relationship is a must in one's life. But, i forgot that it's never really my want for one!
society always says that you have to find your other half to make you a whole. This is where the flaw lies. The other one should not make up for your deficiencies. Rather, the other one should elevate you to better places. Meaning, you by yourself should have formed that whole and your partner would be helping expand your whole!
its like a sudden awesome-ness of something i've believed in all along but got drowned in the societal pressures. Now, I'm much happier. Back to my old self. Back to the love of this independence. Back to knowing my true self.
Yeap, all along, I've loved myself, my life and the people I am surrounded by. Nothing should take away these priorities and nothing should dictate what is good for me. For I've never been comfortable in restricting myself and I enjoy tremendously what I have.
Some people may go: It is all a facade. She is just trying to hide her loneliness but who cares what others say. For them, they believe strongly in relationships being a must of life. But for me, I don't and honestly, why should I care? For I am happy as it is.
Now, don't get me wrong people. Of course, I would love to be in a relationship. But that relationship CANNOT take away my independence unwillingly. Although yes, it comes with compromises but it doesn't mean I must change my life drastically or even my point of view. He should be someone who could support me. So, if I do find that person who is able to bring me up to higher places, then good stuff. But if not, I am capable alone and I actually like being left alone quite a lot of the time! So, i suppose I won't really get lonely because I actually like having time to myself and I find it extremely frustrating to busy myself with people and not have time to reflect by my own.
So, i guess, this is me. And I am happy to realize that the unhappiness I've been suppressing all these while is because of pressure and that it shouldn't be this way as I have never really cared about what others think of me. As long as I am happy, so be it what others have to say. :)
Yes, there is nothing wrong with those guys around me and all. It is me. That is why I have been unattached all these while. But it is also because I am always rejecting those that do ask for soemthing serious. It is just not of me to just say yes! Not that I cannot go into something serious, NO, not that. Just that I haven't found the right one that I am willing to be with. One who I know would not change me but rather would be supportive of me for being ME! haha..
makes sense? for this is who i am.
eternal bliss. peace. :):):)
in fact, i've always had a negative view of relationships. don't get me wrong to all those who are in one right now.. i m not saying i don't want one. and that relationships are bad.. i'm just saying that my personality is such that i m more inclined not to want to be in a relationship. but everyone has different personalities.
and it is a good discovery because recently, i've been looking at guys in a way where i would go, well, he has a potential to be the one (just like Mr. Turkish in my last friends only post :p). And all this is due to the societal pressures in denoting that a relationship is a must in one's life. But, i forgot that it's never really my want for one!
society always says that you have to find your other half to make you a whole. This is where the flaw lies. The other one should not make up for your deficiencies. Rather, the other one should elevate you to better places. Meaning, you by yourself should have formed that whole and your partner would be helping expand your whole!
its like a sudden awesome-ness of something i've believed in all along but got drowned in the societal pressures. Now, I'm much happier. Back to my old self. Back to the love of this independence. Back to knowing my true self.
Yeap, all along, I've loved myself, my life and the people I am surrounded by. Nothing should take away these priorities and nothing should dictate what is good for me. For I've never been comfortable in restricting myself and I enjoy tremendously what I have.
Some people may go: It is all a facade. She is just trying to hide her loneliness but who cares what others say. For them, they believe strongly in relationships being a must of life. But for me, I don't and honestly, why should I care? For I am happy as it is.
Now, don't get me wrong people. Of course, I would love to be in a relationship. But that relationship CANNOT take away my independence unwillingly. Although yes, it comes with compromises but it doesn't mean I must change my life drastically or even my point of view. He should be someone who could support me. So, if I do find that person who is able to bring me up to higher places, then good stuff. But if not, I am capable alone and I actually like being left alone quite a lot of the time! So, i suppose I won't really get lonely because I actually like having time to myself and I find it extremely frustrating to busy myself with people and not have time to reflect by my own.
So, i guess, this is me. And I am happy to realize that the unhappiness I've been suppressing all these while is because of pressure and that it shouldn't be this way as I have never really cared about what others think of me. As long as I am happy, so be it what others have to say. :)
Yes, there is nothing wrong with those guys around me and all. It is me. That is why I have been unattached all these while. But it is also because I am always rejecting those that do ask for soemthing serious. It is just not of me to just say yes! Not that I cannot go into something serious, NO, not that. Just that I haven't found the right one that I am willing to be with. One who I know would not change me but rather would be supportive of me for being ME! haha..
makes sense? for this is who i am.
eternal bliss. peace. :):):)