Observer's Notebook
A good way to judge people is by the people they keep company with. If someone is friends with a lot of people, they have a lot of pieces to their personality. Look at your friends, who do they hang around? The same people you do? There is a good reason for that; birds of feather really do flock together. That's why there are cliques, because people find those like them and hang around them the most because they are those who have the most in common with them and the rest of the world seems like it sucks. People usually have something in common with their friends, otherwise they would be bitter and argue all of the time if they were entirely contrary. It is always the reason why people who have friends in conflict will feel conflicting loyalties; they are friends with both. That's always why the most exclusionary groups of people are like that: the people who have no problems excluding people would do it anyways, but they've found others to take part in the job too.
So what does this mean? Well, if you hate someone, you'll probably hate their best friend too. If someone won't talk to you, there's a chance their friends will too. Drug addict? Guess the company. Well, that one's not so frequent I have found, but still common.
Clingingness appears to be a fascinating trait, coupled with the exclusionary one. They will cling to certain people and forget the rest. And pending the outcome of something else, every friendship I have seen like that has resulted in a sudden and awful break.
Romantic attraction between friends breaks the friendship. Always. Unless they get married. So does obsessiveness within friendships, you know, the person who can't stop talking about how great this one friend is after knowing them a week? Drives the rest of the world crazy too.
I acknowledge that I could be wrong, but so far these proven themselves over and over again.
So what does this mean? Well, if you hate someone, you'll probably hate their best friend too. If someone won't talk to you, there's a chance their friends will too. Drug addict? Guess the company. Well, that one's not so frequent I have found, but still common.
Clingingness appears to be a fascinating trait, coupled with the exclusionary one. They will cling to certain people and forget the rest. And pending the outcome of something else, every friendship I have seen like that has resulted in a sudden and awful break.
Romantic attraction between friends breaks the friendship. Always. Unless they get married. So does obsessiveness within friendships, you know, the person who can't stop talking about how great this one friend is after knowing them a week? Drives the rest of the world crazy too.
I acknowledge that I could be wrong, but so far these proven themselves over and over again.