Mars/Venus
We had a real Mars/Venus communication failure over here. For weeks (at least one) I have been asking (nagging) Jamie to clean the kitchen. It is filthy and I can't stand it, but it isn't my mess and it is a little beyond my current capabilities to do it. And he has been ignoring me. I brought up the topic (started a fight) last night. During the ensuing clarification (argument) we discovered (really) that it was a man/woman breakdown in communication.
When I say "clean the kitchen", I mean take it back to pristine, just-bought-it, nothing on the counters, gleaming clean. He goes in there and, to him, it is fine. He has no clue what I mean. There is no food on the counters, all the dirty dishes are in the sink, no pots or pans on the stove, trash is empty. So he sorta shrugs and thinks he is done. Argggh! Turns out I reallyneed to expand on "clean the kitchen". So I said "empty shiny sinks, no grease on the stove, all the stray bottles and jars off the counters.
And then I left the room to go do my own chores (tackle the bills). An hour later Sweaty Man says he is done for the night. Huh? When I go into the kitchen, darned if it isn't clean. My definition of clean. Oy. I'm putting it down to the difference between man and woman. And I will be s lot more detailed in my requests (demands) in the future.
When I say "clean the kitchen", I mean take it back to pristine, just-bought-it, nothing on the counters, gleaming clean. He goes in there and, to him, it is fine. He has no clue what I mean. There is no food on the counters, all the dirty dishes are in the sink, no pots or pans on the stove, trash is empty. So he sorta shrugs and thinks he is done. Argggh! Turns out I reallyneed to expand on "clean the kitchen". So I said "empty shiny sinks, no grease on the stove, all the stray bottles and jars off the counters.
And then I left the room to go do my own chores (tackle the bills). An hour later Sweaty Man says he is done for the night. Huh? When I go into the kitchen, darned if it isn't clean. My definition of clean. Oy. I'm putting it down to the difference between man and woman. And I will be s lot more detailed in my requests (demands) in the future.