Working On The New Me
Today I had my first therapy session to work on the person I am choosing to become. I met up with my friend Mike that is a Jewish Cantor and I had a personal session with him and his adviser. We went over things in my life such as my family and the abuse that I went though with them,my failing relationship with my boyfriend,my anger issues,and how I communicate and why I communicate the way that I do?
I told her about my boyfriend and the issues that we have been going through.She said that we have a lack of true communication,due to different backgrounds and upbringings.Though that doesn't mean that we were wrong in our ways,but because we have not yet learned how to truly communicate with one another,we have started to hurt each other.So trust and things that are needed for relationship are flawed do to the lack of the foundation of communication. The adviser is strongly recommending for us to go through couples counseling.She said "If I truly feel the way that I do about this man,then it is well worth fighting for to save."
She told me the way I react to other people is because I was raised to react the way my family does.It is my nature,but I can choose to react positively instead of using the negativity of my upbringing.Also that the way I live should not be a concern of my parents.If they ask me if I am living with a man,I am to respond "I am happy" and leave at that. If they become very personal and still try to pry, I am to tell them "That is something that I do not want to discuss" and reflect with a positive statement.I need to understand,that they are hurting as well due to their religious beliefs,just as much as I am due to them not accepting my lifestyle.
That was pretty much all that we had covered and weekly personal goals for myself. This weeks goal are to compliment myself and my boyfriend everyday,keep a daily journal and at the end of the day rate how my positivity is.Hang out with positive people and meditate on being positive.
So with this being said I am at the end of this posting and after saying this My number is at a strong 8. I can't wait till next weeks session. I am excited to come face to face with the new me that I am creating.
I told her about my boyfriend and the issues that we have been going through.She said that we have a lack of true communication,due to different backgrounds and upbringings.Though that doesn't mean that we were wrong in our ways,but because we have not yet learned how to truly communicate with one another,we have started to hurt each other.So trust and things that are needed for relationship are flawed do to the lack of the foundation of communication. The adviser is strongly recommending for us to go through couples counseling.She said "If I truly feel the way that I do about this man,then it is well worth fighting for to save."
She told me the way I react to other people is because I was raised to react the way my family does.It is my nature,but I can choose to react positively instead of using the negativity of my upbringing.Also that the way I live should not be a concern of my parents.If they ask me if I am living with a man,I am to respond "I am happy" and leave at that. If they become very personal and still try to pry, I am to tell them "That is something that I do not want to discuss" and reflect with a positive statement.I need to understand,that they are hurting as well due to their religious beliefs,just as much as I am due to them not accepting my lifestyle.
That was pretty much all that we had covered and weekly personal goals for myself. This weeks goal are to compliment myself and my boyfriend everyday,keep a daily journal and at the end of the day rate how my positivity is.Hang out with positive people and meditate on being positive.
So with this being said I am at the end of this posting and after saying this My number is at a strong 8. I can't wait till next weeks session. I am excited to come face to face with the new me that I am creating.