Well, I'm child-free, and intend to stay that way because I know I'd be a bad parent. I have no problem with other people choosing to have them, though, just so long as they make certain that their children are well-behaved around me.
I have no idea why on earth reproduction is such a hot topic right now. I should think with the world being so close to becoming dangerously overpopulated, the fact that there are people who are choosing not to have children would be a good thing.
To be honest, anyone who hears the reason that someone is choosing to be child free is that they know they'll be a terrible parent and tries to convince them otherwise has me seriously questioning their sanity.
I have no problem with other people choosing to have them, though, just so long as they make certain that their children are well-behaved around me.
I don't understand this. Show me a parent who can be 100% (absolutely, fully, bet their life on it) certain that their child is going to behave, and I'll show you a kid doped up on sedatives. Surely, you'd be a little bit forgiving of a bit of hyperactivity or an inappropriate level of noise? They're children, not Furbys.
Maybe I should have stated it a little bit better, sorry. The kind of behavior that I cannot stand is when children who are old enough to know better (say, 4 and up) go around grabbing/stealing food from people who are eating, or punch other children (or adults) when they're mad knowing that it's wrong, or just start screaming as loud as they can when they don't get their way (crying or whining I have no problem with. After all, they are *kids*. But shrieking at the top of their lungs? Unacceptable.).
I have no problem with kids being kids, but being obnoxious and purposely disruptive? That's a problem. My 4-year-old nephew (whom I love dearly) has this problem with hitting people and since he gets no discipline for it, he's becoming worse as time goes by and this is driving me nuts
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To be honest, anyone who hears the reason that someone is choosing to be child free is that they know they'll be a terrible parent and tries to convince them otherwise has me seriously questioning their sanity.
I completely agree with this, Denimjo. The issue with this thread, (one of the many), is that NO ONE is arguing that point, but that a fair number of the CFs are pretending that someone, anyone, is.
Ahhhhhh, I see. I'll take your word on that considering that I've been unable to get on GAFF for quite some time now. I think it happens when someone (or some people) get a little defensive about an issue and that's where misunderstandings occur.
Yuppity yup! That's my point exactly. See, maybe instead of doing this thread on GAFF, where everyone is pretty much live and let live, they should start it on a rabid parenting site. It'd be much more gratifying, I think.
Thing is, most of the other GAFFers who are parents, including myself, really don't care if anyone decides to breed or not, anymore than they care what color you dye your hair or whether you eat french fries with ketchup or vinegar.
I have no idea why on earth reproduction is such a hot topic right now. I should think with the world being so close to becoming dangerously overpopulated, the fact that there are people who are choosing not to have children would be a good thing.
To be honest, anyone who hears the reason that someone is choosing to be child free is that they know they'll be a terrible parent and tries to convince them otherwise has me seriously questioning their sanity.
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I don't understand this. Show me a parent who can be 100% (absolutely, fully, bet their life on it) certain that their child is going to behave, and I'll show you a kid doped up on sedatives. Surely, you'd be a little bit forgiving of a bit of hyperactivity or an inappropriate level of noise? They're children, not Furbys.
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I have no problem with kids being kids, but being obnoxious and purposely disruptive? That's a problem. My 4-year-old nephew (whom I love dearly) has this problem with hitting people and since he gets no discipline for it, he's becoming worse as time goes by and this is driving me nuts ( ... )
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I completely agree with this, Denimjo. The issue with this thread, (one of the many), is that NO ONE is arguing that point, but that a fair number of the CFs are pretending that someone, anyone, is.
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Thing is, most of the other GAFFers who are parents, including myself, really don't care if anyone decides to breed or not, anymore than they care what color you dye your hair or whether you eat french fries with ketchup or vinegar.
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