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My aunt died last week, aged 32. My uncle is devastated... they were so in love. I'm trying to help sort out his finances, even might be helping dig the grave for him (he thought it might be cathartic, I think it's noble) but I'm feeling really helpless. I know it's sounds daft, because nothing I do can change the fact that she's dead, but I want to DO something, you know, practical.
For her funeral we've found a plot of land behind a church that you can buy a grave for and have it completely personalised. My granddad's making the headstone and my uncle wants some kind of tree ... they'll be a ceramony, and she didn't want people to spend money on flowers, but to donate to the heart transplant centre that saved her life (yes, she had a heart transplant when she was fifteen, also had cancer five times throughout her life, but it was still a massive shock. I thought she was indestructable. How naive of me) and I was thinking of making a donation box for that. Maybe personalise it with the kind of colours she used to wear and things.
God, how stupid does that sound. I just want to do something.